| Today, marks one month from the day my life changed…
One month ago, I was in a long-term relationship, just above 4 years. My relationship with my ex-girlfriend was toxic in many ways. Although I know deep-down she’s a great person, she never managed to treat me the way I felt like I deserved. My family didn’t care much for her, my friends didn’t either, and I would watch helplessly hoping that something would change… but it didn’t. I ended the relationship and was told that I would never be able to find anyone better than her. She told me that I had nothing going for me and that I would be making the biggest mistake of my life.
And this is where I started googling random information online on how to seduce women, how to get back on the dating scene after being so detached from it. I watched many of Alex Coulson’s videos on youtube, mainly on daygame approaches, and saw the guys of Simple Pickup do their thing. I asked myself, “Self, why can’t this be me? Why can’t I muster up the courage to approach women like they do?” Approach anxiety was killing me, paralyzing me… I found myself making excuses and settling as a wallflower when I would go to a club.
In the beginning of my journey, I remember going inside of a posh nightclub in my city and seeing a beautiful woman (an easy HB 8.5). I knew I would never approach her, but as I was standing by her, bobbling my head up and down to the beat of the music, she turned her head around once at my friend and another at me as if to say, “Come meet me.” We both looked each other, we were both AFC’s, and instead of approaching we relished in complete shock and saw her get taken by pretty much one of the worst looking guys in the club. He was old, she was young. He was kind of ugly, she was hot. And yet, if I considered myself so much better, why was I alone? Why did I go home alone and that guy walked away hitting the lotto with an HB 8.5?
That night, I got serious about game. That night, really changed my life.
I studied game. I read this forum inside and out. I compiled a 30+ page document on various aspects of game- daygame vs. nightgame, approaches, openers, tips for AA, good comebacks for various different situations, how to address a cockblock, ways to kino escalate, etc.
A week later I went out to a nightclub and I did my first approach. I saw her from across the bar, she was very pretty and with 2 of her female friends. I had never spoken to a random girl at a bar by approaching her alone, much less a set of 3. After about 10 minutes of trying to make excuses not to do it, I went in. I used a direct approach and a female perspective opener that I love and she appreciated my confidence and got her friends involved in the opinion. I introduced myself to her friends and I think I got their approval to speak with her because they walked away for a little bit so we could talk. I didn’t FTC right away like I probably should have so I ended up cutting the conversation short, saying a FTC, and getting her number. I felt on top of the world, except when I said, “You know what, give me your #. We’re going for coffee tomorrow” she replied with “Maybe.” Needless to say, she never texted me back the next morning but that’s okay. I felt alive.
Since then, I have more numbers from women in my phone than I can handle (I forgot whose face goes to who), I opened a girl at a bar when her date was grabbing her a drink, SHE offered me HER number, and I ended up kiss-closing all the while her date is buying her a drink lol… and some other details through text that I’ll keep private, except to say, we’ll be meeting again quite soon. I’ve gone out on numerous dates, been turned down a few times, been rejected with my openers, etc. and I have so much fun trying to run game that it literally does not phase me anymore. In just a month, Ive had women at my apartment there to see me, took a ride with 2 women in their car and went to their friend's apartment for an after-party, have girls texting me, etc. It's just amazing.
THE HIGHLIGHT OF MY GAME LIFE:
This past Friday I went out with a friend who recently got engaged. I ended up meeting up with 4 of his friends, 1 of which is the biggest AFC I have ever seen and the other a self-proclaimed player and natural game guru. My friend told me I should learn from him, but my new found confidence quickly reacted to his comment by saying, “No, he needs to learn from me.” I challenged him to meet women with me, and be a wing. He was a good wing but you can quickly tell the difference between a guy who goes in there and relies on his good looks versus an above average looking guy who understands some aspects of game. The AFC guy was actually his brother. I told his brother about my experiences and how he’s no different than me. I tried to inspire him. He doesn’t talk to girls when he goes out and never has.
I purposely pointed to a girl that was surrounded by 5 guys and I told him to go approach. He gave me the expected response, “Dude, she’s with 5 guys!” I told him it didn’t matter and gave him some pre-canned lines to use. I told him I was right behind him. I managed to distract the 5 guys by introducing myself, shaking their hands, and telling them I was new to the city and wanted to meet some fun new people and that they looked like they were ready to party and have a good time. In the meantime, Mr. AFC slips in and begins to speak with the girl. He failed miserably, he only lasted as long as the pre-canned material lasted, but that’s okay- he learned, albeit slowly, that rejection isn’t so bad.
That night, he watched me approach about 15 sets of 3 women, 10 sets of 2, and a handful of women alone. All of this not including a coupe dozen women who I took AFC with so he can watch me just compliment them on their look or something unique they are wearing and introduce myself (as an exercise to warm up and show that speaking to girls is okay.. they want you to compliment them and notice them. They want you to approach!) I picked up more #s than I knew what to do with, and had women calling me the next morning wondering if I was actually going to take them out. I had a text from AFC, he managed to grab my number from our mutual friend that read, “Dude, you’re a wolf!!! – AFC” He called me the next morning to tell me that he and his natural game brother had never seen a guy literally talk to the entire club and speak with that many girls in one night in their life. I felt great, I felt proud given from where I came in just a short amount of time. I became friends with AFC, his brother, and their friends, which helps my network since they actually have social value in the club scene where I live (the bartenders and bouncers know them). In any case, I would love to help in any which way I can because I would have loved someone to do it for me… I see myself, and still do in many ways, in the AFC guy I met.
I still have AA, despite meeting numerous girls already and doing well (but still getting rejected) and I still don't have the true confidence I feel I should have- I exert confidence and they can't tell I dont have any because many have mentioned that they love my confidence, but I still feel Im in the "fake it till you make it" stage of my confidence level.
Anyway, this is a snapshot of my life so far with game in it. Thank you to this forum and all of the many members who have helped shape my game and change my life. I look forward to seeing what the future has in store for me!
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