I met a girl through a friend and I've just returned from our 3rd date...

Like the first couple of dates I thought it was going well with plenty of flirting and kino from both sides. She was playing with her hair, resting her hand on my thigh and generally giving off the impression that she was really into it.

The problem's start when it gets toward the end of the date, she suddenly becomes anxious and uncomfortable for some reason. I took her hand as we walked towards the taxi and I could feel she was literally shaking! When we dropped her off we did manage a forced kiss but I could tell she was seriously uncomfortable.

She opens almost every text conversation and seems so keen yet it feels like I'm getting no where... Normally I would just give up but we have so much fun earlier in the date that I don't really want to.

Any ideas?

Zac

Maybe she had something happen to her in her past that's made her wary of intimacy. She probably genuinely likes you, but she might not be used to being close to someone. I'd go back to rebuilding comfort and reset your kino escalation back to square one. SLOWLY involve kino. If that doesn't work, then ask her what happened. Be genuinely concerned for her, and try o make her life better. That's what a real PUA does.

Thanks for the reply. That's more or less along the lines of what I was thinking. It seems like she gets nervous as soon as the date seems to be nearing an end.

The only thing I can think of is that she's panicking in anticipation of the "goodbye" kiss... Earlier in the date she was progressing the kino even faster than I was which was what threw me off track so much. To go from confidently stroking my inner thigh to shaking when I took her hand, in the space of about 5 minutes just seems bizarre!

She text me early the next day to say she had a great time and asked when I want to go out again so I think I'll build lots of comfort, maybe even mention it if it happens again and see what happens from there!

Zac

just say at the end, if she starts shaking again :

"are you that excited to kiss me that you can't stop shaking" *BIG SMILE*


she'll either laugh lots and that'll break the "ice" or you'll notice is something else than act concerned to her problems and try to talk about it and understand her.