First of all its an Art

Ive been in the game a while...

Did the lines... the Routines... read the books... which is all neccessary i believe... but i brought me to a place of thinking of women as targets and numbers and most of all i used them to feed my ego...

Like a good friend put it... we put ourselfs in a position of being at the whim of what a woman thinks of us... You have to find your self...

It came to me on a spring break trip with the boys... my friend Bman was a kid that was always a good looking dude but was a tennis player going through school and had not many friends and or style or social interation with women... Guitar playing type guy...

So he cuts his hair in College and got some style and now hes just blessed with good looks so he imediately started getting girls... the problem was his level of game was not up to par... he had hardly none but he had the innocent mind i lost... ive had girlfriends breakups and been cheated on and cheated on women... alot of experience you know... So when we were on the trip i was observing him and his whole idea of women and he isnt involved in this pick up world we are... he reminded me of me when i was like in middleschool... he wanted to make girls fall in love with him and make them feel amazing... i totally lost this reality a long time ago and was refreshed to see it again...

So i went out with him and we opened a few sets and i would be running this bs game we all do and yea it works and the girl was feeling it but everytime i would look over at Bman we was making out with them.... it made it akward for me with the girl i was talking too cause you feel you should be making out too lol... so it happened consistently 3 times that night and i was like wtf and when we got back to the room that night i had a convo with him...

I told him WTF are u doing dude... everytime i look at u ur making out in 3 minutes of knowing the girl... he told me he doesnt have game like me and doesnt know how i do it... he then said all he is doing is getting really close to them when hes talking and it just happens and i said no shit... but i knew it was more... i knew it wasnt just that... so i was remembering what i observed about him and what ive learned from he community... it was all based on his vibe and the way he thought... he didnt want to fuck the chick.. he wanted to make love to her... he didnt want to swap spit he wanted to give her a fairytale kiss... his body language and his eye contact told this... as we grow up we forget this and since he had been held back in life... he had this advantage but his downfall is his lack of experience in knowing you have to pull back at times or a girl is overwhelmed...

So i went out the next night with excitement that i was going to replicate what he had done the night before and i focused on the mind set... some liquor helps... keyword is some... so you have to think james bond... and tap into that inner lover... some of you wont possess this and i dont know how to teach you but for those that really appreciate the female mind and body at the level i do this is gold for you... i walk into Cayote Ugly in panama city in spring break and i told bman lets do this and we walk in and bman opens a set... he walks up to his target and i walk up to her friend and my approach is smooth and my eye contact is on point... i say hello and im looking at her... and i might of said whats her name but i could of said anything... the point is the powerful look like a gorilla has in a zoo romantic but strong and it has to say i want to make love to you.... and i said my words slow then got slower like i was realizing how amazing she was an i was slowly getting hypnotised... and i went from 2 ft face to face to 6 inches to 3 inches then it just happend... i made out with her and i looked at bman and he was making out with his chick and i was like wow this is so legit...

So remember... the lover in you is all you really need but the tools u learn in PUA material help... want her but dont be needy... you must love her but not need her... every once in a while giving her doubt to spice up the romance... think of the guy from the Dos XX beer commercials... very confident man who oozes with romance...

Girls often tell me they have never met anyone in the world like me and are like your to good to be true... im mostly myself... and being dorky is part of it... but do it in comfort stage... for example in bed with her... be your dorky self and play with her... relax and enjoy the essence of the woman... if shes there you will love her but u never need her mentally... to make her fall in love with you tell her storys of your child hood... stuff that is personal and ask her about herself growing up... tell her you love it when she tells you about herself because you feel like you know her more and you want to know her... Good luck guys

Very inspiring post

Hope to read more from you over here

Excellent post. Everybody should read this.

Reminded me of the 8 types of guys women are attracted to that David DeAngelo has talked about. There was the dominant and submissive subgroups, as well as lover and provider. You just described one of the two submissive lover subgroups. Someone who just knows how to make women feel amazing and sensual and a bunch of stuff like that.

Don't have much commentary on what you're actually talking about, just felt like mentioning that. Definitely sounds good though.

Thanks guys i was debating whether to let the what my group of friends call the "close talker" out the bag but i wanted to contribute back as ive taken so much away from the comunity in my growth... the close talker is to be used in club settings and big party settings... but i have used it in one on one setting with a girl once and lol its pretty funny she said why are u so close to me and she goes thats wierd and 2 mins later she was making out with me... ahh girls gotta love them... if she says anything like that do not get insulted just laugh at it... feel cool and relaxed and hold your course... notice i said feel cool not act cool...

You See, I Love You.
You're one of the few people who understands.
Thanks for the Great post.
Awaiting More!

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Thanks for the amazing story man! I love reading stuff like this, cause this is exactly how I view loving a woman myself. Don't be afraid to post more stuff like this. Cause it's really inspiring!!

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Wow,powerful stuff!!

Im on cloud 9 right now as I read this post;real powerful.

If it's 1 set back about pick-up,the community,or having intellctual knowledge of pick-up,it forces us to pull bacc or hold back,when otherwise a natural who doesnt know any of this would proceed to the max and have more results.

Describe the vibe in more details so we can really get it.

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perfect description. thanks man!

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Bump! Excellent post

Love it.

Wow you make it sound so easy, as if we didn't need to discover this community at all. By the way did this happen in a loud club or a bar where you hear each other without having to talk right in the ear?

This is similar to 60s stuffs, just less creepy since you carry an lover aura with you

You guys this post is from a year ago, I just bumped it because it was helpful but I think this is just a good quick opener to kissing I guess..you still need to learn to escalate things even more O.o

+1 on that! Great post... it's simple... Let's be inspired to make this simple and not over-do it.

Question: Is she going to feel creeped out by this? Or is it how you handle the "getting closer"?