Hey guys.

This question has been on my mind for a really long
time and I want some perspective on it... I don't
have a GF and am still a virign,
but I tend to masterbate a couple
times a week. I don't know, like,
when I do decide to do it in
the end I say "it helps me go to sleep"
as the main excuse but afterwards I just
feel bad afterwards or just have a feeling of
regret after clean up. I know I need to lose my
virginity like SOON cause I'm 21 and I don't want
to be in a position where i;m gonna end up being a 22
year old virgin! I know docters say that "masterbating
is good for you. You won't have to worry about arthritis
when you're older..." I'm starting to think maybe those docters
were also deprived and have a better excuse than me.

What is your opinion on this guys, I'm just starting
to get over my AA and am beginning to improve
myself and I can feel it but this feels like an
addiction that I need to do once a week
and it's driving me mad. It's fuckin hard
(pardon the pun) to not do it in the end cause
after approaching gorgeous girls...you know,
its just becomes a dirty deed to me.

Yeah guys, I actually give more help
than actually asking for it on here
but please, what are you're
thought on this? I really
appreciate it.

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My thoughts on masturbation?
I'm a fucking PRO.
Sometimes it makes me feel good, most of the time it makes me feel like a piece of shit. Depressed, lonely... It's not good for my self-esteem. But it is definitely an addictive habit. If you let it be.
I usually do it twice a day: one to wake up, one to sleep.
However, i've been reading up on it and i've decided to make an attempt at stopping. It's only been a day (i'm not making a goal of 30 days or whatever, i'm just gonna not jerk it for as long as i possibly can), but i already feel like i have more energy both physically AND mentally. I didn't even need a coffee this morning!
All-in-all: It's not worth the stress afterwards. At least for me.

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I used to masturbate every other day or even every day and I've got the same feeling of regret and so on. So I decided to go 7 days without it, first two days were hard but I had SO MUCH MORE ENERGY and motivation and everything. I felt more sexy, more confident more everything. And I had much more success with flirting with girls. After I come home full of that sexual tension I picked up during the day by flirting I tried to look at porn and it was terrible haha I closed it instantly.

Try and go 7 days without it, masturbate on Sunday and then go the whole week without it. Your testostorone levels will be highest around friday saturday which is ussally when you go out.

How many times has this topic been addressed in the social anxiety, health and fitness, general questions, and PUA Lounge sections? This question seriously couldn't be asked in the social anxiety masturbation thread? I'm not being a stickler. I'm just wondering why there are so many redundant posts?

As has been stated several times masturbation is not bad for your health. In fact under a moderated and healthy pace it is actually good for you (generally once every 5-10 days). However, masturbation is like anything else with the human body, and "abusing" can have negative side effects. Generally scientist cannot discern what "exactly" these side effects are.

However, it is understood that there are most likely no major long term effects from masturbation even if it is chronic.

But chronic masturbation does have some negative side effects. It makes your penis insensitive to other peoples' touch. It takes a longer time to gain an erection. It takes a longer time to ejaculate with each ejaculation, and if coupled with another medical problem it can contribute to erectile dysfunction *(such as a man with high blood pressure or diabetes). These of course are the only know side effects, which is why it is advisable not to "over" masturbate.

It's all good, I looked on similar threads about this but they didn't address
the same problem as I thought. Sorry if it's a repetitive post but I just
didn't want to waste any time and just get an answer.

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No problems, I was just curious. You've answered my questions, and I hope I answered yours.

The problem with masturbation is that one rationalize it with a physical need....yeah it is true, your body needs that dispensation. But when u feel bad, depressed etc afterwards, masurbation was just ur last attempt to overcome ur feelings of loneliness. But it didnt help.... If u think about that feeling, what is causes and how u wanna be part of the world, u really have to ask deep questions and many things (especially the game) become quiet complicated!!!! There is no general solution, the game isn´t it neither.

So my 2 pennies...

yeah dicklow for sure. The thing is that I'm not a chronic masturbator,
it's just like i'll be chilling and then I turn on the tv and I see a chick
with a perfect ass or something then i'm just like "....what do I
with this now??", the rest is pretty self explanatory haha.
I tend to try and not masterbate for like a couple
days but you know like most addictions they
say the first week is always the hardest...
pardon the pun

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There's really no point in stopping but there is a really good point in cutting back. If you masturbate once every two weeks, it will feel way better and you will become more happy and confident in life.

Balance in everything is the key to life.

Oh that sounds so clever, but if he becomes happier and more confident, why doesn´t he cut back automatically.

Sorry dude, it is not wrong what u r saying, but super useless; especially because he described himself as an addict.

So and u just masturbate once every 2 weeks...not more or less??

The thing is i'm not a chronic masterbator. The longest
i've ever gone without masterbating is nearly a week
but then I gave in, and I must admit it did feel a
little better, but still, I want to try and restrain
myself, it's just fucking hard !(pardon the pun)

I can agree with cutting back, but I don't know
if I can just completely stop altogether...

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'Bitches aint shit' - Chai

Bottom line,

you jerk off on Sunday,
go without for a week........

go out the following Friday, Saturday- think law of state transference- you are going to be busting to bust a nut!!!- she is gonna feel what you feel dude, if you manage to open successfully------ which you will, if you approach around 12 to 15 sets....


you get a make out or something even crazier!!!!

Rinse and repeat.

i'd just like to note that i've pretty much just lost all boner control because i haven't beat it in a while. The only plus side to that is when i'm talking to girls it forces me to come up with good conversation for fear i will look like i'm trying to charm a snake out of my pants.

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Note to self: Be a man. Bottle up your true feelings. They show vulnerability. What woman wants that?

Thanks guys, i'm glad I got some relevant insight into this. I actually
stopped for 6 days and it did actually feel a little better than doing
at every other night

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