I'll save you the story. HB9 likes me tons. I kiss closed, second based, and been on 5 dates with her that all went well.

Facts:

1. Shes now playing hard to get thanks to her friend's advice
2. I know she likes me cause her friends told me we would be go together.
3. We havn't talked for 3 days now(I was falling for the hard to get AFC style so i had to stop commmunicating)

I want to DHV, and at the same time apply something that YOU guys do for these types of hard to get girls.

I was planning on waitting an extra day till she contacts you then text her.-but what do i say?

no one has a cure!?

There must be something wrong around her? Or there maybe some other men and she's confused. Why don't you just ask her how the things are going around her lately. Show symphaty. It's gonna be good for her!

yeah its been like all week and no response. i sent her only two more messages. i asked hey is there anything wrong? no response.


I called her from my phone, no pickup, so i called her from a friends phone, and she immediately picks it up. I told her nice, and I hung up. I'm pissed.

I sent her a message that I was a friend (of me) and if you really liked (me) to call the guy.

I really went AFC, but honestly it was to the point that I didnt really care anymore.


I talked to a couple of friends and i found the solution.

HERE IS THE CURE:

If you are dating more than one girl at the same time, you don't ever have to deal with this crap. If one plays hard to get, you have plenty of other girls to date and mess arond with. even if you really liked that one. lol thanks anyway

There is that golden rule of cut ur loss' and move on to the next girl...

i aply this to some of the girls i meet, and like this situation, some i don't want to palm off.

1st question, what did the dates consist of? did you take her for dinner? movie?
out on the town? because the first dates are important. maybe she wasn't locked in by the dates.

my first dates are always "low temp" dates.. "my friends and i are going shoe/clothes shopping, feel free to tag along" and with that, have some good looking girlfriends with you to show off for social proof. same with the movies, have a little crew, get the HB to bring one of her friends aswell so she doesnt feel akward.

then build it up from there.

it nearly sounds like to didn't build enough kino/rapport over the dates, if u got to second base on the first or 2nd date, and nothing there after, u might have turned her into the prize. and a girl won't know she wants you until she feels jealousy. did you make her feel jealous?

id put ur situation in the damage control section. i don't know a great deal about damage control, but i would try to bump into her (if you know where she hangs out or works or something) with a hot bird on ur hip, could be a friend, cuz, sister, (she doesnt need to know) and if she's invested in you she could feel jealousy and respond.

or, leave it a week and send her a text "hey kid, that new movie .... is out in 3D, there is a crew of us going to watch it, should tag along. yew"

if jealousy doesn't sucker her back in, id say she didn't invest enough in u..

thats my 2 cents. hope it helped

Piratemoot

lol u won't belive this;


she has fallen for me. she said she just needed that time to think and she was trying to thnk of thigns to say but she couldn't so she called me sunday night saying she thinks we should stop seeing each other, cause she coudln't stop thiking about me.


i said lets just be friends, she said thats ok. Now, how do i hit on someone who already likes me? without pressuring them too much? haha

You have probably trapped yourself here.

friend zone hey, one of the things to do in that situation is to use her as your pivot. go out sargin with her on ur hip for social proof. she might just be able to help you get other numbers (not, can u help me pick up chicks? but just happin to have her there when ur out being such a socialable guy)

this way (if she really does like you) she'll feel jealous, and will want to close the deal after seeing how good you are with people hopfully. or ull be able to pick up others

Also, if u put to much effort into this girl, or display needy-ness, she will tell and it'll be a turn off. women can smell desperation in man, thats why when you have all the girls, even more girls want you, but when u don't have any chicks, its hard to get started.

id use her as social proof unitl she's ready to commit. have fun with it.

Piratemoot

@piratemood

That has to be the most stupid thing he could do. Any woman with a little selfrespect won't allow someone she feels a little affected to pick up girls in front of her.

It is not a Friend-zone kind of thing. Maybe after half a year it is when they haven't spoken eachother for ages. But SPAM it is very tense.

When you go out and pick up girls in front of her, she will think: 1. What douchebag. 2. Does he want to prove himselve?

Why juggle with fire?

Happy sarging, let this girl go, she won't give you anything more if you keep persisting. Let time get by.

Riqueza.

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Dude, most people's biggest fear is usually the LJBF speech...and you just did it to yourself? That's suicide.

Also I don't believe her line about liking you so much she didn't want to talk to you. What the hell is that? If you like someone you WANT to talk to them and you won't be able to stop yourself from talking to them. Something else is going on here. Also if she really did like you that much, she wouldn't be okay with just being friends. Either she is really weird and emotionally screwed up and she doesn't know what she wants, or she doesn't like you any more and wants to be friends.

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