Daniel!
It took a while, but I have read the entireity of your journal/field report in the last two days. It is practically a mirror image of my recent endevours, minus a few f-closes
you don't have to heed what I say, Hobbit and Kasabi are ON TOP OF SHIT and if they disagree with me, I hope to read about it...I am going to comment.
1) You're damn smart, damn witty and damn honest, you come by this honestly
2) You are humble enough to admit your fears and open enough to tell strangers about them
3) You understand human interaction
4) you're attractive enough to generate interest with just your appearance and solid body language
5) These traits are GOING TO GET YOU LAID
So, apprehension is your biggest enemy right now. Nothing wrong with liking this girl, even if it is a lot. You need to make sure you let her know about your like and your lust in equal parts! Try to offset every "friendly" or "helpful" thing you say or do (Kino, body language, context of convo) with something that implies your sexual interest as well. I am a lot like you, it is hard to imply the lust covertly, but the friendliness comes naturally. The implication at the end of your convo's with this girl need to be balanced so as to not push it in either direction. I have fucked a lot of chances up with my nature and have more friends than notches in my belt, but recently, that is changing.
If you do push it in a direction, which direction better suits your values and desires? Ya, I would want to fuck her too
Think back to the old friends that you used initally to build confidence...the nature of the most helpful convo's were in a balanced, or slightly more sexual context. Don't over think it, act intrisinctly, let your natural charm flow. Just couple this charm with a sexual deameanor. Kino escalate while saying what you feel like saying. Look at her lips when you are talking about your camera, be honest about how beautiful you think she is. EYE FUCK THE HELL OUT OF HER WHILE YOU TALK ABOUT HOW HOT YOUR COFFEE IS! I think you get the point
It never hurts to use canned conversations at times, if they fit the context. But overall, your body language and internal arousal can do most of the work, you got over the shyness and you have always been interesting. She will be hanging off of every word.
One fantastic option to move into a sexual frame is to talk about how happy you are to have met a female presence during your travels, of course you had your doubts, and of course you WANTED to meet a girl in brazil. This will directly let her know that you think of her as a woman, and yourself a man, and all that implies, without you having to say anything too direct. Say it with your hot-cup-of-coffee- eye-fucking going on, and she will get the message ten fold!
In a nutshell, speaking from my recently developed transition of a number closing, kiss goodbye and intimate conversationalist persona to the guy girls want to fuck, you have all the tools. ALL OF THEM, in fact, you have more personal power and reason for inner game than you can imagine. YOU WILL GET THE F-CLOSE or fucking fail trying. If you try. Either way, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Strong rapport will build comfort, strong sexual tension will get you attraction. You know you have to Rapport down, Rather than thinking about what to say, think about all orgasms you're going to give this girl.
The comment about not freezing her out is a good one, she needs to feel like you like her. BUT, as you know, she does not want to feel like you need her. So, let her know you think she is interesting, but don't let her know it while you have the look of falling in love on your face(fuck, that one right there took some work for me, damn AFCISMs), look like you admire her for it. Let her know she is Attractive, but take the time to look around the room at other women, the waitress. This girl doesn't OWN you, you don't OWN her, But you OWN yourself. She comments on you checking out other girls (It took me a while to figure out how to not backpedal on this one, it happens a lot, girls are overly jealous) say you admire beauty. Comment that her beauty was why you decided to ask for her number in the first place. In your mind, the fact that she is WORTHY of your intellectual interest is a very pleasant surprise. (Don't say worthy, girls don't like that...Imply it takes effort and talent to impress you...yeah, I've made all the mistakes)
Alot of this you already know, Im just re affirming that you are right and it WILL work.
Anyways, Thats my two cents, BEST OF LUCK.
Long post, I'm not sorry
CHAT
