There's a HB9 that I took out once for drinks and to a club. Everything went ok, we ended up back at her house but refused a kiss because I had previously been sleeping with her friend. She said "What about my friend?" and I said "What about her?".

Whatever. She said she'd like to have a 2nd date but whenever I try to hit her up she talks about how busy she is. If she doesn't want to go out with me (I don't know why she wouldn't) that's fine, except she is always hitting up my fb and with texts like 1x per week. This has been going on maybe 6 weeks.

How do I get this girl out on another date and wtf is her situation?

Thanks in advance

did it occur to you perhaps her friend likes you and she doesnt want to get caught in the middle and jepordise her relationship with her friend over a guy

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haha yes Jish thank you for your reply. I did think of that I should have mentioned: her friend I was sleeping with I hung out with and told her I didn't think we should sleep together. Also told target I was interested in her not her friend. Maybe not the best move but it would have gotten me nowhere if target thought I was sleeping with her friend.

Move on. Nothing's happening between the two of you if she and her friend are close.


-Roz

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damn you are probably right thank you for the hard truth.

is there a good way to handle this situation in the future?

Yeah... don't sleep with your target's friend.

Girls are pretty possessive... if my friend goes out with a guy- he's her guy. It doesn't matter that it was just one date and nothing happen. If I want to see him, I have to ask her permission first. If she slept with him, I don't even bother asking...

Girl code my friend.


-Roz

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Haha thank you Roz I'll miss them both

Yes but she's still contacting you. If she wants to talk, talk. If she wants to meet up, meet up. If she's being a bit distant about meeting up, don't push it. Keep in contact and it may happen eventually. You will see where it goes, maybe something maybe nothing.

I don't know what the situation is with you three but it's not as cut and dry as Roz suggested, I think - why is she contacting you all the time otherwise? Unless you've played up the way she's contacting you when you wrote about it.

2 "close" female friends may be up for a threesome together with another guy. It's happened before

I mean, she went out on a date with you. And then she said she wanted a second date. And then asked you "But what about my friend?" to me it sounds like she's keen but not sure what to do about the situation. She wants to know it's ok. Your response "What about her" didn't answer any questions and says you haven't thought about it.

And she's asking a valid question. I can't gather from reading this, where the three of you stand with each other. Obviously she's not sure either. You have to do some thinking and some talking, and bring up certain topics in conversation with both of them, to find out where you all stand.

Because she likes the attention- he's her daily supply of ego boost.
Well of course it has! But it won't happen in this case. Why? Because the chick he slept with is now bitter- he prefers her friend; this makes her jealous, and insecure, and every time his name comes up, she starts bitching about what an asshole he is.
Of course Conker is right here- there's no harm in doing this. But don't waste too much time and energy trying to make this work, because if these two are close friends, it's most likely a lost cause.



-Roz

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