So the GF transferred from a community college to a university recently, but she can't afford it. As such, she chose to strip. Tried to convince her against it, but no go. Honestly, I don't care that much interms of jealousy however at the same time I don't want to get ****ed over down the road. The club isn't a full on strip club, there's no nudity and no physical contact at all with the girls. Anyway, my gut is telling me to pull out. Does anyone here have experience dating a stripper, and give me insight on how that turned out interms of worrying about what she's up to and if it's even possible to have a secure relationship with her? And if so, what type of steps do I need to take in regards to her profession to maintain such a relationship?

Eh... if her reasons are 200% genuine.. and she's gonna pull out of it sooner or later, I'd.. continue Although this, is a helluva tough one. It's your choice to make, friend.

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no nudity and no contact? is that a strip club? but thats good i guess.
This is definatley a tough situation and it comes down to whether or not you can swallow it. Im sure there are other available to earn money but stripping is easy if your a hot girl. Im not going to tell you how to think about it, follow your gut.

Effective point. Not gonna lie, it felt good walking out of that club with her under my arms when everyone else could only watch. All of this just happened so randomly and suddenly

my ex is a stripper now also shes liek a career stripper tho iw ouldnt be surprised to see her in porn i legit do not even care for her as a person anymore i mean we can talk like normal ppl but it is what it is theres nothing there currently

and to add no matter what from my experience its usually a gateway to further shady activity and/or drug use

dude, her life, so who cares, especially if it's a no contact club. I've dated strippers, it's great, they don't come to you for money or anything. They earn more than you so you don't even have to be a gentleman.

As for the gateway point, it's certainly true that there are lot's of drugs in the industry, but that's no different to the entire hospitality industry, about half the chefs I know are heavy users of one illegal substance or another. If she's a good and intelligent chick she'll stay clear of any really trouble.

Just roll with it.

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You: I'm dating a stripper
Some other dude: DUDE HIGH FIVE

Pull out. You're going to die from overdosing on high fives.

The issue I see here, is not the stripping (I have dated strippers).

The issue is this...

You have a gf. She decided to take a job, that you specifically communicated to her that you weren't comfortable with?

And she took it? WTF.

How strong were you about convincing her? Does she do this in other areas as well?
Does she often get her way in arguments or disagreements? Do you suffer in silence?
Other guys here are saying you should "try to cope" with a gf who is disobeying you, flaunting it even.

I would kick her to the curb.

HOWEVER

If you:

- were not firm about your view on the situation
- are not actually dating her exclusively, but rather FWB

then you should ignore my advice, because those are the assuptions I make when a man talks about his "girlfriend".

Women need a strong, caring hand to guide them, someone to show leadership, resilience, character, and hard nuts. This is an attractive man who women obsess over.

If you made your views clear, and she deliberatley took the job anyhow, then i would say you are pussy whipped, and the relationship will soon be over anyhow, so i wouldnt waste time stressing about it.

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Come on.. does no body care about her college fees? If she could have found another suitable job, I do not believe, being a woman of dignity, she'd choose to be a stripper.

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No offence to half the guys who have posted but most of the advice given is very poor!

The question is honestly how does her being a striper make you feel?

What is your moral code?


Perhaps you are an devoted christians who has a high moral code, or perhaps a cage fighter who doesnt care...in either case it comes down to what you are comfortable with?

I personaly think it is a horrible idea to date a stiper because I beleve if you are willing to show your body off to other men 1# that is cheating, 2# it shows a lack of self respect, and moral code, and 3# If she is desperate enough to degrade her self for other mens pleasure just to make money then what eles would she d

Now Im sure some will say Im wrong for saying this but you wouldnt have posted this if you were not atleast some what bothered by it and my guess is you wanted a little positive reassurance so you wouldnt feel so bad that your gf would be striping...but your gut is prob telling you that it just doesnt seem right? Also clearly she doesnt want to be striping if it is a last resort correct? people usually dont dream about being stripers lol and honestly 99% of the stripers I know arnt doing it because they want to be doing it...so in a way its degrading.

So IMO you should leave her yes and make it clear to her why in a mature and clear way! but then again im not you so mabey it doesnt bother you...but from the sound of things your not to keen on the idea.

P.s I there are other ways to make money when you dont have any...I had to leave school for a year and work so I could save and go back to school, also there are student loans and grants, or working part time while in school, or working full time and doing part time school.

In my eyes striping is the easy way out for her and she knows she can make a quick and easy dollar taking her clothes off...she can give you the whole "pitty me im broke" story but I know plenty of people in the same shoes who arnt taking off there clothes to get through school.

Dating a stripper has an infinite amount of privileges. I really don't see a problem in this...

She's untouchable for other guys, she gets paid a LOT and she is doing nothing but fulfilling her goals and dreams for her future.

You can only support her all the way through. It's the right thing to do and it's the super-awesome thing to do because you get to DATE A STRIPPER.

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Lol, getting back to the OP, the point is not whether a bunch of dudes on their computers think dating a stripper is cool, or hip, or morally degrading, we could debate the semantics of that till the cows come home.

The point is, as dark one said, how do you feel about this? I still dont understand how you could allow her to flout your authority so blatantly, especially over an issue that is associated with so many other danger areas - temptation, awkward situations, conflict of job vs loyalty, cheating, doubt etc etc.

Can the op perhaps shed some more light on this? how have things progressed?

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