| I haven't really "sarged" much and have only entered a hand full of sets and have done so going lone-wolf because most of my friends/associates are either AFC and are in relationships of varying quality. But when I have, I've found the following helpful:
Trick To Sarging Solo [quote]Trick To Sarging Solo
Author: Toecutter
The trick to sarging solo as far as I am concerned is not to look like you are there alone.
Here is how:
Know the staff and regulars. These people are always there and get you chatting. Sometimes it can be hard just to jump out of your skin and START talking. Especially if you have not spoken to anyone before you walk in. I would also suggest, if it has been a while since you last spoke, getting on your cell phone just before entering and warming up your mouth a bit with a friend, then hit your bar staff and regulars, then girls. Hi-fives and high energy all the way as you do your entrance.
Next thing: Never stand alone. Or if you are alone, realise that you have to get into a conversation immediately. Like FUCKING NOW! It does not matter with whom, if you stand alone you will stale out, feel unproofed, and chicken out of getting it restarted. When alone between sets you want to look like you are doing something. Walk around as if you are looking for someone or heading for the bathroom or order another drink or something. Chat with the waitress or bar manager again. Watch the live music and have clear enjoyment on your face if there is live music, but do not let these sorts of activities be crutches ... get the fuck into a conversation. Don’t stand still alone. Eject from one set ... "Look I have gotta go, nice meeting you", turn around make your way through the crowd as if you have a destination but are in no hurry, spot a second new set and open it. Merge sets, isolate chicks.
Easier places are those that are crowded. When the place is crowded it just looks like you are separated from your friends. If asked, your friends are "Over there". Get good standing / drinking crowds where people are standing in sets. Big sets are fine. Go in with opinion openers and work the guys hard. Without your own set of mates there it is handy to have some guys to slap backs with and shit between sets. Don’t shy away from mixed sets at all. You are there alone. Mixed sets are good for you.
Avoid places where every move you make can be seen by everyone in the bar. In other words, a semi-empty bar with beautiful bar staff and waitresses lazing around doing not much and some seated sets at tables is not a good place to sarge when you are alone even if the targets are higher quality here than up the street. Also, you want to resist the temptation to be the bar-fly and sit on a bar stool with a beer in your hand.
But number 1 rule is to always be in conversation.
What does a guy who is at a bar, club or lounge alone look like? He is standing alone watching the rest of the people. What does a guy who is not alone look like? He is speaking to people. So what is the difference between being an alone guy and a guy with people? Starting a conversation. That is the only thing standing in the way of turning you from an alone-guy to a with-mates guy. An ice-breaker. If you are in a conversation, to the rest of the bar it will look like you are there with the people you are speaking to. So you have just got to speak to people. Ask a mixed set what they think about whether you should get your tongue pierced. Tell them your girlfriend wants you to do it. Let the unknown guys in the set have all the cunnilingus gags. Set up jokes for them, and disqualify yourself from the women in the sets so the guys are comfortable with you there. Whatever. Now you have new insta-friends. Just speak.
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Swingcat also wrote this in response to a question on Sarging alone and trying to build a circle of male friends in order to not look awkward in a club/bar:
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I'm going to share a story with you. A few years back, I was out at a nightclub with a friend of mine.
Alas, he got violently ill and decided to go home. I had a few drinks in me and wasn't in the mood to risk getting a DUI.
I was left with these two options: Either I could sit in my car and give myself a hypno lap dance until I sobered up or I could go back into the night club.
I spent a few minutes brooding over how all of the women at the bar would look at me as if I had the words "I'm a loser because I'm alone!" written in permanent red marker across my forehead.
Then, out of nowhere, I snapped and made the decision to go into the bar.
Maybe it was the alcohol talking. Maybe it was because there was a full moon out. I dunno?
I entered the bar and like a battering ram I charged headlong into the first group of girls in sight.
I ended up really hitting it off with one of them. I was digging her and she was digging me. I could just feel the sexual attraction between the both of us. As I was holding onto her hands, I looked into her eyes and pulled her closely into me as if I was about to kiss her. I could tell she wanted to kiss me.
Instead of kissing her, I said: "You are such an awesome girl that I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship by hooking up."
She looked a little disappointed but acquiesced to "being only friends." For the rest of the night I made her my wingman, helping me get several phone numbers of other women.
But here's the kicker: I still ended up sleeping with her that night. In a bit, I'll reveal to you how I was able to TURN A FRIEND INTO A LOVER. So keep reading.
I had a great time and have been out alone dozens and dozens of times since. Going out alone has given me some interesting insights:
1) Having the skill to go out alone communicates to your unconscious mind that your success with women and people is not dependent on others. You'll unknowingly give off to women an air of confidence, charisma, and power.
2) Women see guys as losers who feel like losers for being out alone. If you communicate to women that being out alone doesn't bother you in the slightest, they WILL NOT JUDGE YOU AS A LOSER.
3) Going out by yourself is a surefire way to increase your success with women because... It Forces You To Interact With Lots Of Them!
Women make much better wingmen than guys.
So, if I were you, I'd focus more on befriending girls you can use as wingmen to help you meet and attract other women.
Most women could care less if you're with another guy. Of course, there are exceptions - like if she's a swinger looking to have a ménage à trois with you and your buddy.
However - and I don't know if this is biological hardwiring or cultural conditioning...
Women Feel Attraction Toward Men In The Company Of Other Women!
Does this mean that if a woman sees you with other women she'll indubitably FEEL attraction toward you? No - but she's more likely to!
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