My name is Lam. Hopefully someone from here can offer me some advice in this situation! I'm kind of seeing this one girl right now. We've known one another for about 1.5 weeks and I think we bond quite well. We've gone out once before. In the last couple of days she suddenly doesn't seem to be herself and today I found out the reason why. She texted me telling me that she's been depressed lately because she talked to her boyfriend last Friday (whom she broke up with a month ago). They broke up because he had to join the marine corps and then travel abroad to Afghanistan or wherever else. She is still in love with him. Also, her best friend is ignoring her calls for some unspecific reason and her best friend is only paying attention to her boyfriend (not the marine guy, but another guy).

She also texted me saying that she felt a catharsis after she watched "500 days of summer" and she said that if she and that marine guy are really meant for each other then "we" (she and that marine guy, supposedly) would make it work again.

What should I do in this situation? I really don't want to become her "girlfriend." She's really high-quality and matches my standards of being a girlfriend. My pickup skills are quite good in general. I have been studying a lot from Jon Sinn and other PUA's, including In10se. Please let me know. Thank you, guys!

You are crazy for even thinking about seeing this girl, hit it and quit it

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Thanks for your input, man!

Seriously, when I first met her, we just hit it off so well, so I never knew anything about her history. She seemed to be a perfectly normal and cheerful girl. Since last Saturday she started showing these "weird" symptoms.

I actually k-closed her once on our first date but failed because my delivery and timing was terrible even though the routine was money.

I'm just wondering if now (in the next few days or even today) would be a good time to k-close or take it to the next level with her yet?? Especially if she's still depressed?? Any other suggestions for this situation? Thanks, guys!

lol, i guess it depends on your morals, iv taken advantage of a girls depressed state on more than one occasion, im not proud of it but iv done it.
I would personally just go direct and ask if she wants you to go over and give her some "comforting", if she says yes then she blatently wants her back door smashed in, just remember to strap up, you dont want to get a girl like this preggas haha.

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Latest development: So I talked to her last night for 1+ hour, basically listening to her life stories since last year. Her parents went bankrupt after some business failure, she didn't have money to pay for summer school (where both she and I are at right now) so her boyfriend has to pay for her because her best friend "ditched" her after promising that she (her best friend) would pay for her summer school. I did offer lots of emotional support and analyzed the situation from the vantage point that made her bf look like the type of guy who wants to sacrifice himself for his gf. I can feel that she trusts me more than her current roommates because I have connected to her on a very deep psychological level. Also, I tried to hold her hands once for "comforting" but she refused so I guess the game couldn't go on at that moment.

I'm pretty sure that I have become her confidant already and I did a "nice" thing: made her an origami crane and then I put some symbol of hope and happiness in it through a short story I told her. Another thing I successfully accomplished was to solve one of her major problems: I told her to cut off all communications with her "bitchy" best friend who ditched her in times like this and she listened to me.

I'm thinking about using In10se's fractionation and/or to make her happy and/or make her feel alive again. What do you think? What should I do to make her forget about her bf? Should I use the bf-destroying routines and tactics?

Pretty sure you are wasting your time with this girl, I would move on if I were in your situation.

okay, so depressed girls, i've dated 2. one straight from a critical ward (i found out a little late...) that girl, it went F***N disastrous, everything you do is a problem. post traumatic stress dissorders and assimilation occurs with you, and you will become a figure that relates to her past. its a form of venting, and you'll have to put up with it.

the other one was MILD depression, just kinda sad.
-up for the mattress mambo, but it's shit, hit it and quit it, don't get involved unless you are a mental health specialist.

but be nice, she can't help it.
just don't let it transfer to you being a target

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Serioudly, fuck her and try to stay as far away from her as possible. Actually, if you fuck her and leave her then she might even become suicidal. Not a very good decision to do. If I was in your spot then dont do shit with her just fucking leave her. You shouldnt get involved with these types of girls because their just gonna bring more problems to your life.

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Cut the shit, time to fuck.

Stop listening to her whine about her ex. You are heading straight for the Friend Zone if you keep providing an ear for her to funnel her depressed drivel into.

Take her out, make her laugh, show her a great time. Make her associate you with happy and fun things, not bedtime phone conversations filled with crying.

My apologies man, i havent read your post. But just going by the Subject...... FORGET HER!
Depression is Contagious.
Dont let HER bring you down to her lvl!

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karmas a bitch, wut goes around comes back around. i seriously dont get how or why people fall in love with every crush they have, every chick they meet, or basically any do able female person who even talks to them.

i mean its alrite to have a good conversation between two people, or even have a vibe, but theres always a line, letting ur self become there emotional tampon and willingly geting ljbfed isnt gona help u cross that line, i dont even know why you want to cross that line in the first place.
how would u like it if somebody else fucks ur mother, ur sister or ur girlfriend.

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