Hey folks. So I have to say that pick up has greatly improved my life in almost every aspect. If it weren't for a friend introducing me to pick up I would still be a very sad soul and not an incredibly confident happy person I am today.

Before PUA:
I consider myself a fairly attractive person, but I used to be an anti-social shut in. I used to spend hours never going outside. I remember spending a whole summer vacation sleeping throughout the day just so I could wake up at night and watch the late night scrambled porn channels I got for free in my room while masturbating profusely. A horrible cycle that left me socially anxious with a low self-esteem. I was depressed all the time wondering why I even bother living.

During PUA:
After a friend introduced me into pick up, I became inspired. I read EVERYTHING I could get my hands on and watched every youtube video out there. I learned not to take every suggestion PUAs gave literally, but to shape it into a lifestyle I wanted to see. I began talking to everybody around me no matter what just to build up my social skills. It was hard at first (really hard) but I pushed myself. I STOPPED WATCHING PORN!!!!! As a matter of fact I got rid of my TV and internet, which forced me to go outside.

I trained myself to show positive body language (no sloughing, no hands in my pockets, looking people in their eyes, no looking at the ground walking with swagger with purpose like I own the place). I learned to show a genuine smile, and to look good. I started exercising to feel better about myself and give myself a sense of self worth. I changed my mind state filling my thoughts with positive energy.

I began meeting people and developing a crew of folks I could go out practicing pick up training myself to become the leader of the pack. The best method I've learned when it comes to approaching women is to gain an incredible amount of social proof and to have the goal of being rejected. For example going to clubs my goal was to approach as many women as possible to see how many times I would be rejected. The most I ever got was 57 in one night, but in turn I got 5 numbers

I finally reached the point where I was messing around with 7 or 8 women at a time. It was insane. Constant text messages, fucking all the time, going to random cities I've never been just to meet up with some girl. My record was fucking four girls in one weekend (I was shooting dust by the 4th one).

After Pick Up
I finally got to the point where I was ready to settle down, and I came across a woman that is not only incredibly attractive to me, but we connect on so many levels its beautiful. I created a group of friends that are all socialites and we always go out for random adventures. I have amazing social skills to the point where I can be the center of attention without even trying. I use my PUA skills at my job which has led to great connections. I get invited everywhere all the time. Its great.

In Conclusion
A day in my life before pick up: Staying at home all day hating my life.
A day in my life after pick up: House parties, road trips with amazing people, camping, cycling all over town, BBQs, art shows, live music, breakfast in bed, bonfires by the beach. This is the good life.

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Just realized you reposted this from somewhere else on this forum. Great post all things aside. Many people can learn from this including me.

that's a really good post, im currently getting over my anxiety myself, just anticipation anxiety, not really social, i can talk to people i just anticipate a lot of stuff which i dont know why. A lot of girls are attracted to me but then my anxiety kicks in making me think all these negative stuff and then usually end up self sabotaging myself to ruin it. it sucks, but i try meditation to get over anxiety and it should help with social anxiety too. meditation can clear your mind and negative thoughts, builds self esteem also. My tip for anyone else out there with anxiety in general..

1) meditate, it helps wonders, you dont need to be in a religion to do it, its just a state of mind where you can reach your subconscious and just remove all the negative beliefs you have of yourself. Practice, spend 5-10 minutes everyday, twice a day, in the morning and right before you go to bed.
2) deff stop spending time on the computer, get a job, go to the gym, interact with people more, spend more time with your friends, go out in public with a big group of your friends, the more encouragement you get from your friends, the more you feel better about yourself.
3) remember that you are only human, nobody is perfect, there are more people out there with anxiety than you know it, you are not alone.
4) don't be afraid to make mistakes, who cares if people judge you, people judge you because they are afraid of getting judge themselves, keep that in mind, people who judge are no better than you.

good luck to anyone battling anxiety, i am myself going through this battle, the real battle is not with other people but yourself.

Yea sorry. I couldn't decide which place I wanted to post it since I felt it applied to both.

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that is some great stuff... i feel the same way except for some reason cannot push myself to actually do it. just out of curiosity, at what age did you start pua and how long was the whole change process?

for me, i started pua at college, it really forced me to go out and interact with people, it may sound late but its better late than never.

Such an inspiring post ! I decided to get rid of my 42" television right there...

this is basically why i want to start into pickup, i see so many ways it can socially train people. getting laid aside (as that's not my game plan at all for inner religious beliefs, yeah i know religious bible banger yada yada, but i'll live my life how the hell i want thanks you very much.

thanks for the great post. i'm just trolling the forums trying to learn some more. nlp is very interesting to me, and inner game more than anything.

after a bad breakup where the relationship got to the point of me completely seeing our life together and considering when, not if to propose, i became a real shut in. same situation as you before pua, spending all day in with blinds closed, artificial light, con the computer all day long, wasting time, studies are suffering badly etc.

what were some of the directions you took when learning? threads of note and things you did to really start changing?

i still have the typical oneitis and am a toatal afc right now, just saw my ex walking out the door but she didn't see me, she's gone NC with me, for the most part i've done the same, though i went super needy after the breakup and shot myself in the back(figuratively) man if i'd only known the most basic rules of pua before then it probably would have been really different.

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