Met this girl through eHarmony, and we've only gone out twice in about 3 weeks because she's been really busy. In the meantime we've been in near-constant email communication. Now she's saying that it's going to be really hard to make time to see each other, because she has a bunch of plans she made before we met.

Basically she wants to just limit things to email/phone for 4 weeks. Personally I'm not that sure it's a good idea. She says she's done LDRs before and is comfortable with it, but I know momentum is important in these things and that it's all too easy to just become a pen pal or just a friend.

I don't think there's much real choice in the matter. I know next week she'll be out of town, and the week after her mother is visiting from Vietnam... not sure what's up for the weeks after that. But I don't want to just agree like a AFC either. Not do I want to act like it's that big of a deal and appear needy.

Any thoughts on how best to handle this?

Have a huge tendency not to get a reply on here until just after I've written/texted/called the girl... so figured maybe if I wrote it but didn't send it I'd get a reply here and some useful feedback!

HEre's what I was thinking:
Attempting to come of as unconcerned, point out that I think it's not a great idea, and a little cocky funny (I hope) reminder that I probably have other options...

Gotta go, thanks in advance!

You're accepting that she doesn't want to see you, and letting her know you'll still be waiting around if she has "a little free time". Seems a bit weak tbh... you're telling her she has you on a leash. Also a lot of girls won't like the implication that you're dating other girls, even if it's jokey.

What you need to do is just say "OK, cool, whatever" and not appear needy. If you're interested in a relationship, you'd probably get huge brownie points if you took her AND her mom out

Ok, you make a lot of sense. Went with:

It's nice to offer to take her and her mom out, but you should have given her the chance to say no. You would still have got brownie points for offering, even if she said no. Now you've basically denied her the opportunity to decline and jumped right into asking what day would be best :S If she doesn't want to, she is gonna freak out and go "Omg, how do I tell this guy I don't want him to meet my mom yet". If you don't hear from her, that's why - she's wondering how to turn you down, because you haven't left her any room to do that.

Isn't that being assertive? I'm sure she can come up with a "oh we've already got every night planned out" or something if she needs to.