Right, i sarged this girl hard last night, she was around an 8 (i never give 10..noone is a 10)
got her number n said i'd call her if i was free, anyway during my set i said a false disqualifier to the group as she was with about 4 guys

Me - It's a shame your not my type

Her - Why's that then? (wierd look on her face)

Me - *Whispered* Well you see im not into girls, it's a shame we have a bit in common and my bf over there would only get jealous

Anyway we talked for a while and me being a bit drunk forgot to tell her that was a joke..

..anyway we've txt a bit this morning, and she mentioned at the start ofcourse i remember you, u have the bf!!



Bugger, What do i do here?

any opinions taken, never been in this position before

You could always say:

Hey Im actually not gay, that was a joke.

Play along with her and escalate the gay thing into this giant issue---exaggerate it beyond all proportions until she starts wondering whether you're joking. Then ask her if she wants to meet up with you at X place at Y time. Make sure its a place that many beautiful women come to. When you meet her, point out an HB8-10 and say "wow she's hot"

At this point, because the gayness is such a big topic in your conversations, she'll ask you about your gayness. Respond by saying "what? oh, you thought I was serious?"

Too complicated.
Perfect.



Don't complicate things. Just say right out that you were kidding. Be honest - that's all it takes.

Offering different perspective:
Build up sexual tension ( via text messages ) because you can get away with it better than a " straight " guy. She doesent need to keep her quard up because you are into "guys."
There is no risk factor in her point of view.

Few ways to do this:
1) Sexual words in non sexual context ( example: I was talking with these two figure skaters about them joining me and my friends hockey team and i said that one of them needed to be a massager. So, the other one was excited and even said that she would be offering full body massage and poke my ribbs with her elbo while winking her eye. You get the purpose behind this? You say sexual words in non sexual context which still makes them think about those sexual thoughts because its " two minded". )
2) Sexual words in sexual context ( for example you making gentle jokes concerning sex and sexuality )


At the end of your messages ask her out for a day 2 like this:
You:" We are going to a club next weekend and you should come too..... dont worry... its not a gay club "

Dont blow your frame. Instead use it as a leverage ( in your messages ) until you meet her again.
IMO if you DO blow your frame through message than there is a risk that she feels betreyd and she wont answer back to your texts because its easier for her to ignore you via that way compared to what it would be when you are telling the facts face to face.
The ignoring becomes more harder when you are physically present in that situation.
Try it out.
Might be fun and usefull in the future.

[ Johnny B ]

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