i agree with all above posts....

if you wanna take revenge ... at least fuck her and dump her....
i would let it look like we made up and have sex .... day later text message her she's a dumb bitch also let her know you used her.

in any way i would have sex with her and dump her... that shows her who she
's fucking with.

if you really love her etc - i would try to talk with her and keep HER FEELING BAD about it .... the more guilt she feels the more desperate she wants you.

Don't be like ok were ok and were going out and sleep together .. NO just show that you care and your feeling are hurt. Tell her you need to time to gain trust or something in that context.

These are the responses I like !
Thankss Hobbit , Exerio and Jsquared

I really like her & I don't want her out of my life!

When I posted this thread I already saw that this 2 sec kiss wasn't such a big deal as i first thought although it is a fucked up situation.

She is feeling really bad about it and she told me she's going to do whatever it takes to get me back.
She's begging me for another chance and keeps sending me texts telling me how much she loves me

Is there something special i should do now ?

She told me everything ! ( I think )
She send me an email with everything in it

When we had a little fight , she told the guy she wanted to kiss him once ( She's saying not during our relationship but i don't believe that)
When the guy kissed her she just let it happend. She wanted to say no but couldn't or something. (she told me he could manipulate her , lol )
Then for some reason she told him she liked the kiss because she didn't wanted him to get angry at her because they have the same friends and they would all be against her but actually she didn't liked it at all.
The guy knows who i am and asked her to tell me it was a diffrent guy.

But she also said that she really regrets it and feeels terrible about it.
& she can't let me go


does she think i'm a retard ffs
please help don't what to do

Its rather simple. Do you want her?

Like what was said above, a kiss isn't really a big deal and she is genuinely sorry. There's nothing wrong with forgiving her and moving on together.

If you can't get over this, then you dump her.

Reading her story, it sounds kinda fishy to me... First of all, is she going to run to another guy everytime you guys have a fight? Secondly, he can manipulate her? Then why is she putting herself in a situation where she can so easily be taken advantage of? Lastly, she told him she liked the kiss? Her excuse sounds pitiful, it was blatent disrespect to you. She didn't want the guy to be mad at her? I'm not really sure what the hell that even means, but if she is over her ex it shouldn't matter what he thinks. It seems as though she only feels bad for herself.

If you do want to stay with her, some ground rules need to be set. She has to realize how little respect she showed you in doing this. Her excuses were lame. Her actions were lame.

Hobbit, I realize what you're saying. Most of these guys who say "fuck her then ditch her" probably don't know what its like to be in a relationship with someone you love. It isn't that easy to do that to someone you cared about, or may even still care about. And to be honest, I felt the same as you before reading the summary of her e-mail. That made me change my mind about how she felt about it, if she was hiding all these details for so long.

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Thank god we have some sane people in this world. Too bad you managed to post this before me. I would've said exactly the same thing.

I know her excuses sound bad that's why i'm asking for help
Although she really is trying hard to get me back , her excuses are stupid.

Now i know everything
She just admitted that he kissed her first and it was a 3 to 4 sec. kiss without tong.
And she closed her eyes.
So she did kiss him back and wanted the kiss ;(.
But she does not love him or has feelings for him.

She swears that if she knew what was going to happen she wouldn't have went to him.
And that she can't let me go and do whatever it takes to get me back


She lied to me because then i wouldn't forgive her.
I'm a little bit angry but it makes me feel bad.


Advice ?

Some girlfriends of me , told me that if a girl used to be in love with a guy for that long it's hard to resist him.
And To be honest , there are girls that I wanted to kiss but i didn't do it.

(Since i dumped her I kissed a few girls but it doesn't feel the same .)

You're right that the worst thing is that she was hidding the truth , but she did tell me.
I know that she made a mistake and that she really regrets it but i don't know what to do.

Just a stupid kiss? comon...lets be real women lie and theres a good chance that a 2 second kiss was more like 5. Just a tip when people talk alot and get overly defensive...give to many deatails ect ect...there a prob lieing.

Im not saying she is lieing but she has nothing to feel guilty about if she wasnt lieing correct? I mean she seems very worried and guilty for a girl who didnt do anything?

Dont ever make excuses for her! she is in the wrong and I dont give shit if she did nothing she should not have put her self in the position to be kissed. Its not like they wer in a corner at a party...they wer prob alone correct? and she was close enouph for him to kiss her correct?

Plz read everything before you say something ;p
She told me everything and now i'm pretty sure it's true.
So read everything 'cause it was a 4sec kiss and she liked it.

She was wrong i know that
But she grabbed her head , looked her in the eyes and kissed her
She should've pulled away but she didn't.
I know that it's her fault to
But i know she regrets it
Everyday , she texts me every 5 minutes that she loves me and will do whatever it takes to get me back

The decision is up to you, not anyone on this forum. You will always have it in the back of your mind that she treated on you, and you will never trust her the same. However, if you do take her back, you have to be in total control, you can't let her walk all over you, not even once.

Honely bro you know her better than any of us...Its hard because we all have a picture painted of this evil whore who cheated on you lol but mabey she really is a nice girl? If you want to take her back let her know that what she did was fucked up and I agree that now you have the power! she now never has any right to question you. The one big problem is that you will prob never 100% trust her again and IMO its hard to have a lasting relationship without trust.

The irony here is that if it was the other way around, everything would be like "Hey man it was just one kiss, she can get over it..."

All that exists is attraction. She gave in momentarily for a guy who grabbed her in the moment. How strong is your attraction? Can one kiss really replace everything you've done with her?

This may be a sign you might need to step back a bit more cause you're not making yourself enough of a prize (less sex etc.) or it may be a sign she's got really bad self control. Either way, this is a chance to make yourself look like more of a prize.