Heyja guys.

I was just wondering. When a girl in comfort opens up to you and starts talking Daddy and Ex boyfriend issues, how do you respond?

Im used to listening to them, tell them i understand them (cause i do (but only the daddy issue, lol)) and then tell them parts of my shitty lifestory, to show them we have something big in common and make some genuine connection. I do not tell them everything though, and i dont open up to much and i act really uneffected and hard-shelled (which i am), so they can relate and look up at me as a protector.

So heres the question: What do you guys do, and why? Do you think there is any better ways to create connection then what i usually do? Cause if you do - id like to know about it!

Cheers, Overture

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RUN!!!! Haha nah just kidding. Most of the time when I am faced with this I guess I just listen. I don't really feel I have a relevant experience in the situation though.

The approach I take is listening, make sure they continue to feel comfortable telling me all of this, because for women to open up about that at an intimate level is hard for them. I just let them know I understand, do not judge them for it, and am always there for support if needed.

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I know opening up to such an intimate level is hard for them - just like you said.

But heres the question i also forgot to ask:

Is there any danger of falling into the "lets just be friends" zone, by telling them a little bit of my story or just listening?

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I have just had this experience. Listening is what they want you to do. they obviously feel close to you for telling you this stuff.

Try and relate to them by someting that has happend in your life then they dont feel like its just them thats got problems.. All will be good

THe girl could be shit testing you to see how you handle pressure...

personally, i take the first chance to make the conversation positive.

make them forget, don't let them wallow.

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Every Saint has a Past, Every Sinner has a Future

you respond honestly.

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"blah blah blah your needs"?

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No wanker, i mean respond honestly!

whatever you feel, let it out, don't be afraid.
Just reading this bullshit gives me a headache. Dude, for fuck sake.. If you don't like it tell her "babe I'm not your psychologist, fuck off, talk to me about something interesting that Ill like"

see what she says to that...

are you man enough? are you man enough? no really? are you? or will you do little pretend scenarios about how to counter psychology into productive and positive meaningful outcome for both of you?

dude.. i wish i could shake you with my hands.. wake up!!!!!!!!!!

your a man!!!

you don't need to care about this stuff if you don't want to. Women talk about allot of nonsense and i go to sleep half the time.



youll be fine mate, just listen to what i said. Read it.. think about it..

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This has very little to do with intimacy. She'll tell this crap to her hair salon lady, the coffee shop girl, and all her gay boyfriends. There's nothing really wrong with listening to this stuff and going "Uh ha . . . I see . . . Hmm. . . OK . . . Ooh . . ."

But she doesn't get to do release what ever she thinks she is releasing through her "blah, blah's" without YOU getting to release what ever it is that you need to release . . .

your not the womans daily plastic penis for stress relief. Women rant and rant and rant, and they like to be told to shut up especially if you don't feel it. At the same time if you feel like giving advice and teaching her something your welcome to it.

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