I have this fear of making women feel uncomfortable around me. Does anyone have any good tips suggestions to get over this problem?

Thanks

Hey!

Just seen your post.
Yeah, I think that part of my initial trouble with AA stemmed from a misconception that "it is much better to not approach women because I mustn't bother women in anyway."

I don't know bro, but I think that there is a good technique of just rewriting your own beliefs in a positive way and using them as affirmations.

To be honest, I used to be really into working with dreams and shit and so the other day, it occured to me that maybe I could treat the whole idea of doing an approach as if I were in a dream. Let me explain.

So, first I described the situation that had happened, that I needed to deal with-namely there was a woman who was in the park, who I felt so attracted to but didn't approach and this left me with feelings of frustration.

Then I described my feelings of real panic that were attached to approaching her and the attitudes that were causing the feelings and finally took each attitude and transformed it into a positive idea.

One of the main realisations that I got was that "I have been approaching for 6 months and nothing bad has happened to me so voila- approaching must be safe regardless of what my emotions are telling me."

The idea being that as you shift your attitudes into a positive frame so too will your feelings. This isn't an instant fix.

You have the fear of making women feel uncomfortable so I would suggest working with ideas as to why you will make them feel more comfortable because you are a confident and excellent person etc etc. They are going to feel great around you.

Maybe working it into your daily affirmations or whatever.

Good luck!!!!

Haha, thanks dude. You scratch my back I scratch yours ;]

How those affirmations coming along?

Hey friend,

yeah, those affirmations are going fine. I have been using them for about a week and a half and they help me to feel more confident and also to redefine the frame in certain situations where previously I wouldn't have felt like the prize.

How many times would you repeat them in any given one session?
I am a morning person, so I don't feel their effect so much in the evening but in the morning i really do.

Starting to use them has coincided with my having a few dates, may be just coincidence but I would like to think it is because of my new positive mindset!

Cheers!!

I do them about 30 minutes a day. 10 in the morning 10 in the afternoon and 10 right when im about to go to sleep. Yesterday I had a really good conversation with 2 girls and I got their numbers. It had to do everything with the affirmations ive been using and I know it. Stick to 7-8 affirmations that make you feel really good say them and youll see the results. Its all about being consistent and commited to what your doing.


Cheers