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Well I think I've seen some mPUAs somewhere say that it's not what you say, it's how you say it. So you could open with anything with the proper body language / voice tone / attitude. So you moght want to go out there and try them out.
However, those seem very AFCish and very non responsive. They will most likely answer with a short answer (Yes/No/Sweet and low is natural... btw I have no clue about the difference between both) and not feel need to continue the conversation. That's why opinion openers work well. It makes them think and commit a bit more to the answer.
Now I don't want you to shoot towards canned material and think that you creating your own material is great. But try to make it so that she get's interested. I could see you going for the Sweet and low / Splenda opener but make sure you have a reason WHY you are asking her and be ready to stack.
Something like this might be a bit better: " Hey you seem like a knowledgeable person in the coffee department. Do you know the difference between Splenda and Sweet and Low? "
But then again, what will you say after the Yes/No/Spenda is natural /IDK reaponse?
Even better I would go for
Ordy: Hey you seem like a knowledgeable person in the coffee department. Would you recommend me to add Splenda or Sweet and Low in my coffee? "
HB: Whatever
Ordy: Sounds reasonable, thanks * Pour Honney in your cup *
That might get a bit of a reaction going.
TheJ,
I completely agree if you ask a question you are going to get a Yes/No/Maybe type of short response because the question is closed in its nature. You can go over and talk to her about that but it's going to be a short conversation. Once that runs dry very quickly, and it will you are going to have figure out where to transition from there to talk about something else.
Also, I agree that it doesn't matter much what you say when you open. To prove this me and a friend of mine went out a few nights and opened every set we saw by walking up and saying only "Frozen Turkey." Why? Just because it was stupid and would be totally out of place in a club. We couldn't open with anything else but we could transition after that.
What we found was as long as your body language was in good form it didn't matter. As it says in the movie Hitch 90% of what you say doesn't come out of your moth. 65% comes from you body language. 25% comes from your verbal pace, tone, inflection, etc. Ever heard a girl say when she's upset with you, "
It's not what you said it's how you said it?" Women are more sensitive to this than men, but they are better socially calibrated too. So that last 10% doesn't matter that much if the other is good!
Jon