My gf and I seem to get those akward silences on the phone and generally cut our losses before we've talked even for 10 minutes nomrally, really being more in the 4-5 minute range.

This is disconcerting to me, as in past relationships (where we've been in love) we generally talk for extended periods of time.

Is this a reflection of a dissinterested relatinship, or is it just that we don't have phone chemistry


how long do you guys generally spend on the phone with a SIGNIFICANT OTHER, not a phone sarge or new girl who you're gaming

hi there

before she went on holiday id say around an hour max, but now shes in a different city on holiday id say 3 hrs a night if we aint busy

I talk for maybe 2-4 hours a day on the phone and like an hour or two on the internet.

I dunno if that helps :/

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yeah, that helps

it confirms that it is not customary to talk for 4 minutes

You might be phoning her too often. If you see each other a lot that may be the reason why you talk less.

It all depends man....its called phone dynamic, not chemistry.

If you have been with the girl for a long time, and you are past the "getting to know you stage" then there will be less to talk about.

If you just met her and are trying to get to know her, then maybe you just found out she isn't much of a phone talker? The only time that should present a problem is if it is long distance. Is it?

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i don't call her too often, it's not that.

we are way past the 'get to know you' stage. However, it's been my experience that the conversations last longer after this stage. Not so much because you have a lot to say, but because you become comfortable enough with eachother to just delight in the conversation and not have to worry about 'data exchange'

the problem was that she didn't have a phone and always had to use her parents'. but really, it's just that our relationship isn't all lovey-dovey, in fact it's not at all lovey-dovey. it's more just sex, and you can't do that so well over the phone now can you precious....not good at all (Gollum reference there for those who didn't understand that last sentence)

okay, then you have to create the deeper dynamic. You answered your question.

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