She didn't cheat on you but she did betray you.

It's all good though man... I hope it all works out for you. Best of luck.

Help the guy to get girls.

Go out with the guy, and open girls for him, be his wing man, and soon enough he will see you as a friend. At the same time he has enough girls, so he does not bother any more to get your girl.

If you are angry to him, nothing good comes out of it.

She likes him, you are acting like a moron to him, she will dislikes you.

It's a road leading to a cliff, where you will throw yourself off....

Think of it as GFTOW in an other way.

And this all does not help. Think that it sucks, but that eventually you will see the sun again.

Cheers mate,

SmoothDoc

No offense to the guy above... but that is just about the worse advice I've seen on this board.

Do what you will Firebird- but I'd definitely steer clear of what was said above.

I think most responses suck hard, especially the ones suggesting you break up with her.

She's probably trying to be nice, and wants a good grade, there might be a little disrespect but nothing that would merit breaking up with her.

Why don't you just answer the phone next time he calls and say something like 'xxxx is in the shower, who's this?'

And be friendly to him, ask him what school he's going to and whatnot, what tests are coming up..
Then in a friendly manner, ask him what kind of relationship he has with her.

If you do it right, and he's not a total jackass, he'll get the idea.

If he doesn't, just tell him to fuck off.

[quote="Locke"]by violating that privacy, you have conveyed that you don't trust her.

A little jealousy is fine - it shows that you care. But now you have allowed the jealousy to control your mind and your actions. So through this she will eventually perceive mistrust and will probably view your actions and attitude as overbearing. This will push her attraction for you DOWN, while the other guy who is playing it cool and working on her -- his attraction will go up. [quote]

Locke... you're a fucking genius... I love this, I gotta admit - I skimmed the original post, but read your response 3x.

Love it.

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Thanks! Relationships take a lot of trust, hard work, and understanding....sometimes it is going to be hard, but she is with you for a reason; don't change that reason.

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DUDE! You need to talk to this guy and let him know its not ok for him to talk to your girl friend that way. Second you need to tell your gf that she needs to say somthing to her, tell her your not trying to control her but for her to put her self in your shoes....I would ask her what she gets out of being his friend?

A guy like that is going to try any thing to get in her pants so just watch it bro! I would deff tell him its not ok to talk to her like that...dont be a dick just tell him that shes your gf, your care about her, and its not ok.

Hmm... many of these posts give GREAT advice- If you want to get yourself in a relationship where you (the nice-guy) gets walked all over.

I can picture it now lol:

You - "Honey... I thought we were gonna go out to dinner tonight"

Her - "oh... sorry didn't think you'd mind- I was out "studying" with friends."

You - "On a Saturday night WITH the guy that told you that you having a boyfriend doesn't mean shit- The one that said he wanted to date you?"

Her - "yeah- it's a really tough class and I can't afford $20 for a tutor- Why do you seem upset?"

You - "Nevermind- I'm gonna take a shower"


I agree- some things can be tolerated.. but lying and disrespect are both absolutely intolerable for me! I'd drop her like a bad habit despite what some of these clowns say about it being bad advice.

A legitimate relationship has no room for an inconsiderate, untrustworthy, disrespectful girl or guy.

Guys that tolerate that type of behavior make it hard for the rest of us to break them of those bad habits- and most likely they just end up in our bed and out the door in a month or two. After all, what type of guy really wants to deal with a woman like that anyway?

Edit: And when are you guys going to realize that it's not so much the fault of the guys that are hitting on her! The majority of the blame has to be placed on his girl for continuing to allow it to happen after the first time! A guy will always hit on a woman if they make themselves available and welcome that type of attention. You can ALWAYS expect that behavior from us.