When I go to parties, I always get girls coming up to me trying to start a conversation but I just can't hold on to it.

For example, at one party this gorgeous blond girl with a killer body, a girl who i thought would be way out of my league comes and stands right next to me while I am just chilling next to the beer pong table watching. And she is literally right next to me, our bodies are touching and there is more than enough room for her not to be so close so I knew she wanted to talk to me. But being the pussy I am, I don't say anything until a few minutes go by and she turns to me and introduces herself. We shake hands and converse for a short short while because I cannot hold a conversation. We talk on and off for a while until some creeper comes up to her and starts talking. She is obviously not digging him. He leaves and then starts coming back so she whispers to me

"can you put your arm around me? The creeper is coming back"

So I put my arm around her until he leaves and I take my arm off when he leaves. (strong wtf) Then she is talking to one of my buddies about how many guys were at the party and she says

"I don't care, I am going for this guy"

Pointing at me. Now at this point, I could have easily taken her out to talk or more, but I have never been in this situation before so I didn't know how to do it. We end up leaving and I didn't even get her number.

Honestly, I could be getting so much tail if I wasn't such a panzy. I am a good looking guy, not going to lie. Like I said, I always have girls coming up to me but I jsut can't pull the trigger. If I could just up my game, I would be golden.

Holding a Conversation is alot like learning "The Game". You might start off being bad at it and not knowing what to say/do in certain situations. But what they both have in common is you can learn to get better at both!

If you cant hold a conversation then learn some new skills, read some interesting books, watch some fun movies.. ANYTHING that you think you could talk about to a HB.

I admire the fact you admit that you cant hold a conversation, because that shows your ready to do something about it!

My advice for you is to go out to clubs/bars/libraries etc and just to talk to as many people as you can, wether or not you want to pull them doesnt matter, its purely to build up your conversational skills.

Another thing that may help your conversation skills would be for you to sign upto an online social site like faceparty, plentyoffish, face-pic etc. This way you can experiment messaging random girls and seeing what kind of outcomes you get, then once you have messaged them a bit more you could get there msn/yahoo addys and talk to them on that. It will help you ALOT, trust me

Orthodox

This problem will go as you grow older. It sounds very similar to AA which is 10 percent fear of rejection and 90 percent lazyness. The way in which you get rid of this problem is to just fucking do it - take her outside, pull her towards you to kiss then give her a good seeing over. If you dont do this then eventually some creeper mug will take the girl from you.

The more experiences you have the better you will understand what is important and what isen't. Good luck.

I was in your shoes once and couldn't hold a conversation if you put it in a bucket with a handle. I have a few tips for you that helped me out tremendously.

1. Be prepared to converse. Think of 3 or 4 really fun and unique things you have done. Write these out into stories. Once you have them written out go back over and read what you have written. Add details, put in spikes of dhv, and take out things that you don't need. Now remember the main points of your story and you will always have a story to tell, something interesting.

2. Listen to what she has to say and find hook points in her conversation. "I'm Julie, I'm a nurse and I'm going to College X to get my degree in psychology." Find the hook points in her sentence..nurse, college x, and psychology. Tell her about that time at the doctor's office when you were getting a physical and that the nurse was trying to get in and sneak a peek. or Tell her about that crazy party at College X you were at when the cops busted it and 2 under aged kids were having sex and ran from the cops naked. As far as psychology, the possibilities are endless...there are so many routines, that's like a get laid free card.

Your stories you've prepared don't have to be the ones you talk about but as you get more comfortable you'll be able to always find a hook point in the conversation and be able to free flow more interesting stories but I always have my solid stories to fall back on if conversation dies down.

1st rule - STOP BEING NEGATIVE.

Your are not patetic, your are just shy, and you are not okay with this. You should try to break the social shyness and interact girls you are not interested in (just chit-chat) to build some confort around women.


After this you must consider buying David Deangelo's videos called On being a man and Cocky and funny. They really are going to help you.

Good luck and keep em comming

quit masturbating.

if you dont know what to talk about socialize more, i had the same issues, and when i go out wierd shit happens to me non-stop.
For instance, i bought a sandwhich from the deli at walmart, wanted some ranch for it and went to subway, which was inside as well, and the guy struck a cord as "strange" and i kept wondering, "WTF is with this dude, he keeps glancing at me and i got this creepy vibe?!" after a few he gave me a free drink and i figured he's gay cause the shit was on an 11 of strange behaviour.
now besides the fact its a story you tell your friends and they fuck with you non stop about cause a gay guy is macking on you lol, its conversation