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PostPosted: Thu Sep 25, 2008 9:31 am 
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is pay sites better or is myspace just as good?


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is pay sites better or is myspace just as good?
There has been some debate on this. I'll give you my thoughts on this real quick.

Pay Sites are good because everyone on there is there to meet people to date. You can search the profiles better that are more specific to dating. Obviously, the mindset of the person on that site is going to be more receptive to you contacting them to get them in person. You don't have to use as much "game" so to speak to get yourself in front of these people.

MySpace and other free networking sites. There are some guys out there that have extremely good methods for meeting people. It can be done and I've seen it just as effective in some ways if no more so. To me it seems like you have to contact a lot more people to get the results you want, but you can get results from both types of sites. You will have to use a little more game to get your way in their life.

I would experiment with both and see what you prefer. Both can offer good results.

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I'll make this as painless as possible so you hopefully don't get bored half way through.

I have loads of friends on Facebook, 70% of which are females. What I'm trying to do is mainly just get them out to meet with me on a 1 to 1 basis or even if they want to come out with friends that's fine. Currently I'm in the process of trying to get as much female company as possible because I generally just enjoy it.

Now the problem - over the years I've built up a bit of a negative reputation in the sense that every female thinks I'm a player. So much so that most girls won't meet up with me for that fact. I've changed alot since then which means I don't automactically want to get into there pants.

How can I convey a lack of interest in them so they don't instantly think I'm out to get there knickers round there ankles, while still hooking them enough so that they can't wait to come out with me - all on Facebook?

It can't be too cheesey either because any chance they get to tell there friends "ooooo guess who told me the corniest line the other day" they will.

Thanks in advance.


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Onato123 I perfectly agree that you don't want to use lines with these people that have known you for some time. You are going to have to contact them through face book and get them to an instant messenger which is low risk for them. The thing you are going to need to do is get them on messenger so you can talk in real time to build comfort and rapport. Then it'll be easier to transition them to getting a phone number and eventually in person.

When you talk to them just talk to them about life and other interesting topics or stories. You're just conveying your a normal person and you are not to advance on them. This way they can see the new you. You can bring up sexual topics to stimulate the mind but just don't game them since you don't want that yet. Just befriend them and then work on hanging out with them.

You'll simply start by doing some basic "Hey, What's happening? I have to tell you about this funny thing that happened to me the other day. " Type of messages via facebook to get their attention and you can convey your personality.

Hope it helps buddy,

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Thanks loads J.

You are officially a hero.


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Thanks loads J.

You are officially a hero.
You're welcome bro!

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I AM GOING TO BE ON BARRY KIRKEY'S RADIO SHOW!!!

That's is right boys and girls I will be on one of the episodes probably Thursday next week. You will hear me come in towards end of the show.

For those of you that know me well I have been a supporter of Barry's Show since the beginning.. That's right those of you who have been listening since like episode 20 I have you beat. I heard the pilot episode that went out to about 8 people originally and been listening ever since.

Barry brings a fresh look to the whole dating scene without taking it too seriously like some people. *Cough* Neil Strauss *Cough* He also interviews some very interesting people like Sinn, Savoy, Gunwitch, and many others! Check out the show and tell me what you think. You can email Barry with any comments if you like at Testicles@Revolution31.com or visit the forum at www.BarryKirkey.com.

Click on the link to Barry's show to download it now!
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I checked the link out Jon, but it says the radio show episodes are no
longer available to download. Is that meant to be right ?


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I checked the link out Jon, but it says the radio show episodes are no
longer available to download. Is that meant to be right ?
Right Barry's show is only available for download for one day. I will be on the show airing October 9th.

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I opened a girl with an email that I thought would make her qualify herself immediately, but she shot it back at me. What do I do?

This is what I opened with:
"You like to be entertained by people. I'm pretty sure I could entertain you, considering I'm a fairly unusual person. I'm wondering how you would entertain me, if we were sitting in a coffee shop for an hour or two, just talking."

This is how she replied:
"You definitely do sound interesting, unusual people are always much more fun to talk to. I would imagine we could have an amusing time talking in a coffee shop, I'd certainly be up for that. So what would you say is the most out of the ordinary thing about you?"


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I opened a girl with an email that I thought would make her qualify herself immediately, but she shot it back at me. What do I do?

This is what I opened with:
"You like to be entertained by people. I'm pretty sure I could entertain you, considering I'm a fairly unusual person. I'm wondering how you would entertain me, if we were sitting in a coffee shop for an hour or two, just talking."

This is how she replied:
"You definitely do sound interesting, unusual people are always much more fun to talk to. I would imagine we could have an amusing time talking in a coffee shop, I'd certainly be up for that. So what would you say is the most out of the ordinary thing about you?"

Perfect, your opener worked. You wanted to capture her attention and interest and you have done that! She even says she'd be up for potentially meeting you which is a great sign. Basically, now we just have to go into our DHV short stories at this point. She's inviting them by asking you a question. She wants to learn more about you so tell her.

Also, you put up a hoop for her to qualify to you. She redirected and put up her own hoop. You can do one of two things. You can not reply to her which would be a tragedy, or you could ignore it and say what you want. I'm not saying do an essay on the most out of the ordinary thing, but tell her soemthing you want to tell her.

Go into a short DHV story. By short I mean about a good paragraph or two that will also convey other things to make her attracted to you. Same as you would in person, however, we're just using email as a medium.

You got her hooked, now just reel her in man.

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I don't have any DHV stories prepared, but I think i may have hit on a possible candidate. I'd like your advice on whether this is suitable and how it might be tweaked.

Something happened to me that probably doesn't happen to many guys. I was in Victoria's Secret with a friend of mine. She was shopping for some stuff to surprise her boyfriend and wanted a male opinion. We'd walked around most of the store and just couldn't find a bra that we agreed was sexy enough and right for her. Most of the bras looked surprisingly plain.

So, she went to the checkout with the other stuff she was buying, while I made one more survey of the bras, to make sure we hadn't missed a nice one. Granted there were a few older women giving me skeptical looks, but then, a salesman came over and asked if I needed assistance. I said I was fine and he leaned in a bit and said, "Do you need to get fitted?"

I laughed it off and politely declined. Needless to say, my friend and I had a pretty good laugh off that for a while!


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That sounds like a good story to go with. I like how you demonstrate pre-selection and its interesting.

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Hey, I got called a psycho over the internet lol this girl seemed to have a really strong frame and she was being a complete bitch. Why?
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Nemant:
you're hot, you should talk to me
XxxUpdateMexxX:
y shud i
Nemant:
give me 3 reasons why should I talk to you?
XxxUpdateMexxX:
i started talkin to me it was ur initiation i dont give a fuck, theres no reason i shud talk to u rite, and dont start a convo and then ask me y shud u talk t me cos u started rite
Nemant:
you got some character lol
Nemant:
are you always like that?
XxxUpdateMexxX:
well u come up and go oh u ''shud'' talk to me, y de fuck shud i talk to u
Nemant:
you got no sense of humor or do you?
XxxUpdateMexxX:
there was nutin humourstic bout it
Nemant:
anyway
Nemant:
give me your opinion or something
XxxUpdateMexxX:
opinion bout wat
Nemant:
my best friend died how long should I wait to sleep with his girlfriend?
XxxUpdateMexxX:
to be honest i wudnt sleep with her at all lol, but do wateva y u askin me
Nemant:
Coz I was reading in this magazine that girls are more likely to sleep with their best friends bf than guys sleepin with their best friends gf
XxxUpdateMexxX:
HEY
XxxUpdateMexxX:
R U OK?
XxxUpdateMexxX:

XxxUpdateMexxX:
is everythin fine with ya
XxxUpdateMexxX:
u seem bit of psycho
Btw this girl is a model and I would give her a 9.


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You started out with a very cocky frame with her telling her she should talk to you. When you tell someone how they should act it typically doesn't produce good results. Then you immediately ask her to qualify to you. I can understand you are trying to assume the frame of a 10 but you pushed her a bit much. Then you stack to your opinion material about the girlfriend.

The thing that makes this weird is that you come across very strong. Tell her basically she's not good enough for you. Then ask her opinion. When you did your story you made it about you instead of a friend. You just told this 9 I'm wanting to -F- this girl after her boyfriend died. That is a little weird, however, if you made the story about a friend it wouldn't be so bad.

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