I teach with this gal that I am very attracted to; however, about a month into school I found out she had a boyfriend. It's not "normally" my style to ruin a relationship, so I did what I thought I should and went out with a bunch of different girls and pretty much just kept to myself around her. Now its like 6 mths later and I still feel the same about her. In fact, I was seeing one girl quite a bit but in the back of my mind I knew I wanted the one I work with, so I broke up with her. We see each other everyday but we never really go past exchanging pleasantries and idle chit chat, but I still got it for this chick. I'm wanting to just game her to get closure (either way) to this. I mean she really hasn't given me any IOI's other than occasional eye contact and smiles here and there. I've never been like this and it's got me all mixed up. What do I do?

Many PUAs give the wrong idea emphasized by the emotionally disturbed PUAs in The Game - You CANNOT always fix one-itis by sarging.

The issue which most people overlook is that you can not fill emotionally attraction by going out and having sex it simply doesn't fill your primal needs.

You are unhappy because you are not fulfilling your natural role in society as the alpha male.

"I've never been like this and it's got me all mixed up." means that your primal animal desires are conflicting with the social conditioning. You need to accept that you are an animal with primal urges and needs. I always say all is fair in love and war.

Ask yourself this question: what is it going to take to make you happy and fulfilled?

- Chris

Up until you said this it was fine... yeah, you definately have oneitis. In your situation I would personally just be very forward with her and let her know you like her and wanna be with her. The way I see it, if she likes you in that way she'll more than likely take you up on your offer - women cheat, fact. However if she doesn't like you in a sexual way it's not gonna happen; the beauty of this outcome is that if she was single she would say the exact same thing... a lot of AFCs make the mistake of thinking there's something wrong with them personally and will try to find out what it is, how to fix it, and will follow the girl around and try to make her like him rather than moving on. Find out if she likes you and go from there - if she likes you then go for it, if not then it's just too bad. The point of doing this is to give you closure; at the minute you don't know if she likes you in the same way and her having a BF is putting you off finding out. Don't let it.