This is a girl I really like and I think i messed it up. i know this girl for 2 years now

me: hey (girl) do you want to hangout today
girl: where?:)
me. I don't know Where do you want to?
girl: *thinks& gets nervous- dunno anyway i don't have time today
Me: U dont have time -_-?
girl: I have to go to work.

Btw its her day off from work. Any suggestions plz? thx what should i do from here?

play it cool dude dont sound needy..always let her know that shes just coming to do something with u, the next time just say that your going to buy a present ask her if she wants to come along dont let her decide where to go !!


Mr.A,

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if you tell her you are going to buy her a present. Take her to target or walmart or even the mall. Pull out a set ammount from your pocket and tell her thats all she gets to spend. Dont make it an even number like 5 dollars, make it interesting, something like 5 dollars and 32 cents. it will take them forever to try to maximize their spending within the alloted amount. lol. Also, be more decisive. Girls hate (I know from experience) indecisiveness. When she asks what you want to do or where you want to go, KNOW where or what it is. plan it beforehand a little. improvise, make up something on the spot, just dont take to long. Dont ever say I dont know.

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When you are the prize, you are like a diamond. If you allow her to become the prize, you become a cubix zarconia.

He's got the right idea! Never make it sound like a date etc. Make your own plans, and then try to include her in the plans.

Also in future, be more decisive, if some one asks you what you want to do!come up with something!Your the man, girls depend on Alpha males for security, safety, and leadership, but if she really wants to do something and YOU DON'T MIND DOING IT, then do it with her.

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You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world

Lead her into darker place, put a knife against her throat and a dick against her mouth, this will do the trick, it has been field tested by millions of man form all over the world.

And seriously stop thinking about this girl, you cant get this one girl, you can get some hot girl but very rarely THIS hot girl, its a try hard. Start having women in your life and tell her about all of them, maybe this will work

ok well.... i am kinda confused i just acted normal for the next week and i added her on facebk. but i do i include her in my plans w/o making it seem like a date? Can i just say "do u wanna go out w/ me somewhere?"

Girls need to be led. You put the decision in her hands, which means if you guys were to kiss or have sex it was her fault because she was calling the shots. Girls don't want to feel responsible for that kind of thing because society says such behaviour makes her a slut. If she asks you where to meet, you tell her. You asked her to pick somewhere so this also makes her think that you don't know anywhere to go, or that you don't get out a lot and are trying to impress her by giving her the choice. You also asked her if she wanted to meet you, rather than just suggesting it. Stay in control.

When you next see her she'll ask what you ended up doing... tell her that you met up with another girl who was decent enough not to lie to you and actually wanted to spend time with you, and you had a really good time. Tell her she can meet you some other ime but if she lies to you again there won't be any more chances because you don't tolerate it and don't have to put up with it.

She will be creaming in her panties.

I get confused by the idea of 'don't make it sound like a date'. Sure, that might work if you're going shopping or something 'hey i wanna do some shopping, you should come', or maybe if you're going to a party or club 'hey we're going to this party/club, you should come'.

But what about if you just want to have something a bit more intimate with her? Like for example: asking her out to a lounge or to a late night restaurant. How do you make it sound as if asking her to a late night get-to-gether isn't a date?

Wrong.
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