Alright, let me give you my basic situation, my strong points, and my problem. Okay, I am in a college right now that is 60% girls and about 90% of those at very least HB6. I'm surrounded by 18/19 yo horny college girls, and I am a few years older which I know can be a good thing. I was in the Navy for five years and I've been all over the world. I learned a lot of confidence there and by my fifth year I can proudly say that i reached straight bad-ass status. I strut around everywhere like I'm cock of the fucking walk, I drive a sweet ass car, I've got great tattoos on my arms, I'm tall with a decent build and I guess an okay face (big nose, though). I think i dress really well, and I'm comfortable in my style. I'm smart (I've got teachers trying to talk me into grad school), I make people laugh a lot, and I've got a lot to talk about.
Okay, now that I've basically convinced you all that i am probably a self-absorbed prick, here is the problem: I've got no fucking game. I mean, zero. I get a lot of eye contact from these girls, and I can often just feel their eyes on me. But here's the deal, my confidence must be somewhere in my ass, because I get butterflies in my stomach everytime a girl even smiles at me or holds eye contact for more than a second. Talking to her? Forget it. I've read all of these books, all of the conversations on these forums, and I understand it all.....but I just don't fucking get it! When it comes time to approach these girls all of my confidence just disappears- poof! Girlfriends and wives of my friends absolutely love me and I can talk to them comfortably forever, but when it comes to actually seeing a girl, and approaching her out of the blue, my balls detract into my abdomen and I just keep walking. 3 second rule...yeah fucking right! It takes me 0.5 seconds to start overthinking things.
So....now that I've basically convinced you all that I am a fucking pussy who needs therapy...here is my question: what is it that I am missing? Why can't a guy with everything going for him talk to even an average girl when she is fucking surrounded by 9's and 10's? I hope we've got some straight pick-up scientists out there because I really, really, really don't want to go the rest of my life acting like a scared child. Oh, and I just read through all of the above...sorry for all the profanity, I think thats from the navy too. If I don't respond soon, its because I'm going on spring break tomorrow and not getting laid! Alright guys, I'd really appreciate any help you can give me.

Hey man, welcome and thanks for sharing.

I feel very similar about myself, however my problem isn't in talking to girls, it's in closing them...and I'm a salesman by profession!

So here's the deal because I used to be where you were, had everything going for me, with out the ability to talk to girls. Everyone loved being around me, but chicks scared the hell out of me.

There is no magic "poof - you're cured" solution. It will take work, but it is all about taking baby steps. Here are a few tips i can suggest to help build your confidence with chicks:

- Start by talking to ugly chicks, older woman, etc. basically girls you have absolutely no interest in. This will make you feel comfortable around females and start working your way up.

- As you walk around campus/street/the mall, where ever, do this exercise that I do every day. Stare at every woman's eyes that pass you. again, don't discriminate only for the hot ones, i literally mean every woman (Grandmas included!). Once you lock eyes, it is like a game of chicken, show you are dominant and don't look away. If she maintains eye contact for more that 2 seconds, crack a little smile and see if she smiles back. The best part is, you don't have to SAY anything...just keep walking. The first few times i did this and got hot girls to smile, at the time it felt like the best thing in the world and gave me a boost of confidence.

- Next thing is to set small goals for yourself. Wake up each day and say "I'm going to talk to 1 random girl today" and if you don't acheive that, then stick to 1 the next day. Once you talk to one, bump yourself up to two, and so on. Get pissed at yourself for not doing it and find a way to punish yourself.

- Lastly, and this is probably the best thing to do: Go out with an expert. I was lucky in that I landed a roommate who was a natural PUA and just being around him made me realize how easy it really is. I just simply started mimic'ing everthing he did and got on my way.

The thing you have to realize is this is a GAME and you can only get good at anything with PRACTICE. Carve out one night a week dedicated to going sarging.

Let me know if this helps. Remember, baby steps, don't try and conquer the world in a day...

hey dude, i got some suggestions 4 u.
1st of all, the dude who rote the first comment is perfectly right
that if u wanna get better at talkin to gurlz, than talk to older
gurlz and ugly gurlz.
2nd of all, if u really wanna get ur confidence together,
just keep in mind that she's just a gurl and NOT A FUKIN' VAMPIRE!!!!
so don't feel nervous about talking to her, instead just think that
ur doin' her a favour by talkin to her.
3rd of all,don't instantly think abt sex wen u notice a gurl lookin' at u
that's y u get nervous so freakin soon. u need to stop thinkin abt sex
that much. i'm not sayin its rong but it'll ruin ur game if ur new and
u keep thinkin abt it b4 u gain ur confidence.
So, just keep in mind that ur doin her a favour by goin' up to her
with an icebreaker.
wish u gud luk.

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"The first few seconds of when u meet her, always matter the most"
-A study from cambridge university

heydude

You have a lot of good things going for you. Especially that you are "a self absorbed prick". Now...maybe i can give you a couple of hints to go in the right direction. First rule of my personal experience is: if you don't approach..the answer is ALWAYS no. I advice to get "unstoppable confidence" by Ross Jeffries. He says, that you can never get rejected..you just find out that she has bad taste. YOU are the best thing that ever happened to her and every other woman in the room. Next time you go out, i want you to take a minute b4 you step into the bar or whatever and think of those words...you are THE FUCKING MAN... put on your winner face, confident look, big smile...if there is a person called fun, that should be you. And off course one more thing...remember it's just a game...relax...

hope it works for you

Dillinger

Kingjester, Sim, Dillinger, I really appreciate your advice. I'm now back from spring break, and I was right, I didn't get laid. However, I'm going to give myself a fresh start here on campus and see what I can do. I'm going to try my hardest to make the most of your advice, and I'll let you all know how things go. Thanks again.
DannyT

Kingjester, Sim, Dillinger, I really appreciate your advice. I'm now back from spring break, and I was right, I didn't get laid. However, I'm going to give myself a fresh start here on campus and see what I can do. I'm going to try my hardest to make the most of your advice, and I'll let you all know how things go. Thanks again.
DannyT