What if she doesn't get on messenger alot? And how about her response? Thanks.

I refer you to rule #2 of this thread when it was started

2. I love to write but I'm not you're personal writer. I will answer all kinds of "How do I..." questions, but please take my responses and put them in your own words. If you do not, when you meet the girl she will notice there are incongruencies very quickly. The way I say things might not work for you, so take the concept and then write your own response please.

I love helping people but I can't do the entire interaction with this girl because it won't be "you" when you been her and there will be incongruencies, and she will notice those. So just make sure you use the concepts and things but put it in your own words.

I would write something like, "Sounds like you had fun in Six Flaggs, really how does anyone have a bad day there. Jump on messenger and tell me about it. You can reach me at...." If she doesn't get on messenger a lot you can try for her phone number, but with this limited responses it sounds like you may have lost some attraction with her. When in doubt if it doesn't work, find another girl online, there are millions.

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Alright man, sorry for all that. I appreciate all the help. I'll do what I can from what you've said on the previous posts.

Thanks for understanding...you can do it. Online game is no different from gaming in person, except your typing more.

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Well I go on a site with webcam chat a lot called http://stickam.com. Recently I've been talking to this HB9 for the past 2 weeks. She came to me saying I was cute and def took it as an IOI. I feel I'm in her comfort level already. She lives about an hour and a half from me.

Lately we been getting into dirty talk. I been running my game solid on her. I been passing her shit tests and making her interested still. I went the way of not talking to her for 3 days and she texted me I miss talking to you. This past week she's been talking about cuddling with me and how she wants me in her bed with her. I tried setting up a day2 with her this sunday then she said she couldn't. Then I asked her sunday night but she is busy. Whenever she tells me she wants to cuddle I just tell her to wait.

Some backround on her is that she has mostly guy friends and she told me she blew off most of her girlfriends.

Any advice you can give me? I'm going to try and not talk to her until the weekend

I'm with you on this. I'm a big fan of freeze outs personally, and I think after you've created that attraction and comfort that its really helps. When you cause her to feel that "void" of taking the time and effort of meeting someone great and letting them slip away, it's not natural to shrug them off. When you come back, I would again try to setup a date. If she shrugs you off again then you have to start considering if you want to try one last time (3 strikes rule) or do you want to just give it up.

You're on the right path man, just keep walking down it.

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K so far she has one strike. I'm going to maybe talk to her again fri or sat or if she is going to text me first. I'll let you know how it goes thanks

No Problem, keep me posted!

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I have not read the whole thread, just the first 2/3 pages. Will read the rest later when i'm free

Just wanted to thank J smooth on behalf of everyone here one more time, it really is very nice of you to take time to help people with their queries/problems.

Propssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

If you have time, I'd like to know what you think about the little predicament that I'm in right now.

viewtopic.php?p=102533#102533

That's the link.
It has to do with keeping in touch on-line and stuff.
Please read if you're not busy.

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I really appreciate that! That really means a lot to me to hear that.

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Happy to help! I agree with previous posts that you should continue to wait a few days for her to contact you. The problem with online game is you can't do a whole lot of attraction building, you can mostly just build comfort. If you do that for some time, then you could end up in the friends zone if you talk to her too much. If you are serious about keeping this going on facebook which won't be easy, then contact her sporadically on facebook. Tell her stories DHV yourself, and let her get more comfortable with you. Which it sounds like she already is. Here and there continue to be playful and be the prize so it's not too easy for her.

GOOD LUCK!!!

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No problem, I really do get heartened to see someone as helpful as you genuinely helping others achieve what they want but equally disheartened to see those getting helped expecting to get helped without really expressing gratitude....

I wonder if some people think i'm gay and gaming you................

Are you free tonight?

Too bad I'm straight or you'd so be my type!

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Guys this thread has been amazing!!! I never really realized how big this would get with just online questions. I figure there is no better place for my 1,700 post then right here. So I'll try and let you guys in on a secret.

Most of the people who've been doing online game for a while will tell you that there is really no difference between gaming in person and doing it online. I've heard this statement a lot, and in fact I believe I might have even made this statement a few times before. The statement is both true and false at the same time.

TRUTH: What you say and how you act should be the same as you do in real life. You will still open, dhv, neg when appropriate, build comfort, etc.

FALSE: The process in which you go through is different!

Basically, you guys know without her being 1x1 with you it's hard to create much attraction. She can't see your disinterested body language, or you ignoring her and talking to her friends. This is a very basic outline that I've constructed that I want to share and get feedback from you guys on.

O1 - Open
O2 - You've hooked them into responding. Now we have to stay interesting and we do this by stacking openers, or using DHV stories. Neg only if needed, because it's hard to show sarcasm online. This occurs over the first few messages.
OC3- Start building comfort via emails. You can now move to get an instant messenger close. This last for a few communications.
OC4 - You talk a few times on messenger or one lengthy time and get about a half hour to an hour of comfort. Then you are able to # close. From there use online game and setup a date, or meeting.

Let me know what you think. If you feel there are more steps in between fill me in. THANKS AGAIN GUYS!!!

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