So I've asked this girl questions to qualify herself. Does it matter that she doesn't ask these or other questions in return? Maybe I'm doing an AFC thing here, but I'm not quite sure on how to follow up. She just answers my questions and that's it. The conversation doesn't continue or flow, if you will, and I end up asking more questions to try to keep it going.

She informed wanting to hear what people are passionate about. I tried expanding or commenting on this, telling her something I was passionate about. She fck'ing criticized it and I had to neg her on it. She called it "engaging" (more like "shit test" to me). However, she later did comment that I was free to talk freely--I'm like, you bet your ass I'm free to talk freely.

Should I continue asking questions or expand/comment on her responses and if she "engages" me I neg her on it (every time)?

When she comments later that I'm free to talk freely then, is that her trying to control the frame? i.e., she's making me jump through her hoop

I have already done a search for "what if she doesn't ask questions in return" and nothing relevant came up.

What do you mean by questions to qualify herself? Any examples?

When I read your post, my first thought was you did an AFC Interview with her. Remember you are the price and not her. I often prefer to talk in statements, like I love girls that are ... because of ...
She can agree with you then (IOI) or she can disagree and you at least discover if she is the right girl you are looking for. Also you show that you know what you want and that your frame is strong enough and you don't change it for a random chick.

Another more playful thing is the Girlfriend Test, you find it here: girlfriend-test-sensuality-test-vt1620. ... riend+test

"Name three things that make you attractive/sexy besides looks?"
"What are you passionate about?"
"What makes you unique?"
"Example of a crazy adventure?"
"How do I go from thinking 'she's hot' to falling head over heels?"

I initially asked the 1st question and she responded in short general terms. I wanted her to qualify herself better so I asked the 2nd - 4th questions--try to get her to elaborate and give examples. Also, I included the 5th question, idea or tactic being same as the first, but needed to solidify that cause she didn't do a good job responding the first time.

Whenever you are trying to understand why a person isn't reacting the way you desire, put yourself in their shoes.

If someone just started asking you questions without telling you anything about themselves and making you interested in learning more about them, then you probably wouldn't bother asking questions in return.

What you need to do is relate to them and their answers so that they care enough about who you are, in order to get asked things in return. You can also draw her out by negging her reply and then making her try to get you to qualify yourself in return. So when she answers your questions, tell her something interesting, so that she asks for more.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

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You SERIOUSLY asked her that?

What's wrong with that? Yeah, I was juggling whether to say that or not, but I went with it anyways.

I learned this reading "The Juggler Method" and I have found that it is 100% true in my experience. It is his 90-10. Which means, when you start talking, you have to give 90% of the conversation and the targets almost always only give 10% until they warm up to you. And like the other guys said, be interesting and don't sweat it.

I think Juggler got that piece of info from Mystery, but yes that's a true piece of info regardless.

Bruce . . . perspective here:
You're asking this girl how you go from thinking she's hot to falling head over heels for her. Enuf said? Or do you need that broken down? Do the letters AFC ring a bell?

Yeah, break it down ...

R.E.F.R.A.M.E. Now, I hope you weren't being a smartass, meaning I just wasted 5 minutes. And then, I hope this clears it up for you.

Never tell a girl that you just met that you think she's hot. Never ask her for the information, make her want to give it to you. Never let her know you are that interested that you want to be falling head over heels. Be aloof. This is cat string theory basically. You just put the string right in her hands and now she's gonna be bored with it really quick.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

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Nah, just trying to learn. I wasn't sure what you were trying to point out. I googled "R.E.F.R.A.M.E." and "pua", if that's what you were intending, and I see what you mean.

http://www.limestonelifestyle.com/forum ... hp?p=12482
http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/ ... e/372.html
http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/ ... s/652.html
http://www.fastseduction.com/cliff/2000-11-02a.shtml

"cat string theory", I think I came across that before. I like the analogy. It's getting closer to being second nature now. Before it was just definition and something I knew you're supposed to do, but had no real/personal context to it.

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3554545.aspx

Thanks all for your help!!

LOL. Well, glad we could help, but you didn't have to google R.E.F.R.A.M.E. with the periods, lol. I just did that for emphasis.