| I'm currently hooking up with a MILF. She's 9 years my senior. I'm no expert, but here's a few tips I think may help based on my experience:
- MILF at a bar at night alone or with the girls = MILF on the prowl. This is a great pick up spot and it shows which MILFs are available. You have to go to pubs or slightly upscale bars. Many are sick of the clubs or dive bars.
- Dress classy but intriguing. You still want to standout, but you don't want to peacock to the point of being ridiculous. Dress young but stylish. No dirty baseball caps. No old t-shirts (unless vintage). No ripped jeans (unless designer). But remember, you still want to offer something young and different then the old guys she's used to. So nothing that makes you look too older (sweater vests, conservative collared shirts). She wants a younger guy, but not a younger guy trying to fake maturity.
- Drink a classier drink. Don't pound bud light after bud light. I sip Jamison on the rocks. It helps you stand out, and makes you look less like a frat boy and more like a man experienced beyond his years.
- Canned openers are fine. But nothing too juvenile. Situational openers or intriguing questions are useful.
- Speak eloquently and with confidence. I cannot stress this enough. I've picked up more than one older woman, and each time I feel its because they sense a MATURITY about me. I'm young, exciting, but she's not going to feel like she's robbing the cradle. Also, do not treat her like an older woman. Treat her like a woman you are attracted to and are trying to have stimulating conversation with. Keep the sexual tension there. Steer clear of subjects that mark your age differences (ie kids). If she mentions it, be cock-funny about it to show it doesn't bother you and that you can handle her. If she says, "Honey, I'm much older than you." You can say something like "Really (sly smile), I thought there was something extra intriguing about you,"or simply say "Yep" with a mischevious grin (stay silent after saying this to increase tension).
- You don't only have questions, you have answers...about life, philosophy, career plans, etc. You are sure of yourself and understand the world better than someone typically your age. This is a HUGE turn-on for older women. Older women I've been with have commented multiple times how different I am than a normal person my age on a confidence, intelligence, and maturity level. Then we've hooked up. I don't think this is a coincidence.
- You can be more direct with older women. They don't play as many games, and they don't care if they are seen as a "slut" as much as younger girls. So if the convo is going well, throw in a few sexual innuendos if you like. Make sure its funny, though, and not crude.
- Make her laugh, obviously.
- In general, your conversation should be less juvenile than with younger girls and the range of topics should be more mature. Don't talk about the latest pop song or teen movie. Philosophy, life plans, DHV stories, information on cars, wines, beers, world events. You get the idea.
Hope this helps.
-Esperanto
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