nothing! arg...

opened this girl and she started showing IOI's. a wk later, she asks for HW stuff and gives me email. we start emailing and the emails from her are growing longer and longer. keep in mind this girl is not from here, so these long emails take considerable 3+hr time.

i only hestitated cuz i saw her at the gym with a guy that could be bf (small skinny). she was talking to me briefly and went back to him after he showed up. then in an email she compliments me for being fit?!

basically she emailed me fri, sat, sun nite and on the wed emails me telling me she has a bf and how i'm a great friend... despite only really speaking 15 minutes, rest are long emails. then she recounts this story of how she remembers me in a hallway months ago and says she has food for me after trying a recipe.

when she shows up, she is dressed a tad different and i think she may have had makeup on. after class she usually walks out walks out of class to go meet her "friend" this time she didn't.

immediately after class she hands me food she made! we talk for 2+ hours nonstop and no one's in the classroom! i used various techniques to get pretty close to her and her body was pretty close to mine a couple of times while i'm leaning back relaxed. we laughed for a long long time and vibe was great. did all the dhv's and stuff and NO mention of the bf. some light kino too and all nervous and stuff and giggly, red, but still laughing and having fun.

once outside class and building and it was dark, we kept talking for a bit, she seemed hesitant to leave. at this point i wanted to ask her how great a kisser she was and say prove it. or why she was nervous and if she wanted to kiss me.

but i didn't and kinda frozed up. now what, i know its wrong to steal a girl with a bf, especially since that's how my last relationship ended with my ex being "stolen".

what do i do now? so confused...please help! thanks

If you TRULY like this girl,
then forget about the bf.

What you did was great, I
think that you did everything
right except for one thing:

You didn't kino escalate
fast enough. The fact that you
didn't kiss her is good, because
if she wasn't comfortable enough
to hold your hand, she's probably
not comfortable enough to kiss
you.

So, if you want to win her over,
set up a second meeting ALONE.
In this meeting, you should do
two things:

1. Build comfort.
2. Kino escalate.

After about 3 to 4 hours of the meeting,
you should be done with C3. During C1
and C3, you should kiss the girl. If you
don't build enough comfort, DON'T KISS
HER.

If you want to end this relationship with
her, I recommend staying in the LJBF zone.
Give her a speech about how great of a
friend she is, and how she's the only girl
that you feel comfortable talking to.

thanks for the advice; will have to look into building kino, which i know was a mistake.

i'm not trying to fall into one-itis cuz i just got off a long relationship. but pretty much those long conversations with a girl has only happened twice to me, once was my ex, and now this girl. that's why this is tough for me.