Ok so I am 20 years old, I am still a virgin I just transferred to Upenn and I don't have too many friends..I had very high expectations of what college life was going to be. I've had a lot of female friends but I always end up being just friends with the. I bought the game by neil strauss cause a friend recommended it to me( yes he thinks I'm a loser too probably) anyways I don't want to be this person anymore I hate who I am right now and I have to change it where do I start. Hope there's help for me out there.

if you hate who you are then do something about that before you start trying to pick up women. i suggest working out at the gym, getting tan (if you are pail), getting some new clothes, etc,..

do things that make you feel better about yourself

i was just like you a few months ago. now i'm happy all the time and have 4-5 girls wanting to "hang out" with me.

confidence is key. if you hate yourself then women probably notice you aren't confident

You can read about different methods and NPL until your face turns blue. I'm gonna try to tell you something you might not learn in those books. Take it to heart.

Out of all the books that i've read, all the time practacing nlp, and the hours watching videos my most powerfull aspect is my style. No book has taught me this style, it just takes some money (not too much) and patience.

I don't say money because I go out and buy guci and luis vuiton items, I wear $15 shirts and $30 shoes. Its going to take money to go out and buy different brands of shirts and find the brand that fits you the best and compliments your attributes. Patience because its taken me years to get the look I'm going for.

Start by observing other males and see what you like and dislike about their style. For example regular non ankle socks with shoes is a style flaw in my eyes. Goofy looking haircuts they are trying to look stylish is a style flaw also; I have a shaved head.

Anyways this might seem alot of effort and you can do this without being metrosexual. When girls see you out they will feel naturaly drawn to you because of your unique style, they will want to get to know you more thus making it So SO SOOOO easy to open them.

A lot can be told by the way you dress.

your gonna hate me for this because I'm in your position pretty much right now but ya their right from how much i've changed in this past week(learning about this site) in ratio to the rest of life is depressing to say the least i think the worst part of being an afc is not knowing what to do & what works just knowing (and its true that the tripple a's is a big part but), just KNOWING what to do puts you on a whole different level.

i dont have enough time in the weekend to tell you about all the things i now realize i should have done and all the girls that could have been mine if i found this site just a year earlier.

its all about confidence. Rayovac is right. I know for myself whenever i see a girl i have a million bad thoughts going through my head "she probably has a man" "i need a haircut" "these shoes have a scuff" the more you can shut that noise up the more chance you have to help yourself by taking action.

as far as changing who you are goes. listen to OneManWonder look at other guys but not only other guys. other guys in movies , cartoons anything you can think of . anyone you think is kool. then take the best traits of those people. sounds simple but will take a long ass time trust me.

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You know what your problem is?You're putting the pussy on a pedistal.

The key to being successful with women is confidence and you will hear it from everyone. What I did was I figured out what and who I am inside and what and who I want to look like on the outside so I can convey whats inside to other people without having to open my mouth and so that I am happy with the way I look and confident enough to walk up to anyone and just start a conversation. I suggest you figure out what you want to look like and what impression you want to give people before you open your mouth, then make yourself look as close to that as possible. I went out and got my tongue pierced to feel and look more sexual, I got an industrial piercing in one ear and 2 hoops in the top of my other ear so that my ears (which are fairly prominent) have something eye catching and distinctly different from most people. I have some tattoos that I had custom made (don't go with anything that someone else will have because then you don't seem original). Then find a clothing style, or styles, that works well on you and once you are happy with who you are, head out there.

he's a twenty yr. old virgin who's friend think he's a loser i'd say first things first. (since he sounds out of weight)(because doing all that then having all your clothes too big would be a bitch!!)

but ya thats the idea let your outer represent youor inner and make your inner identical to that of your idol. everyone has one. for example mine is sebastion from cruel intentions.

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You know what your problem is?You're putting the pussy on a pedistal.

step 1: build your self confidence.. work out, get in shape, be comfortable with who you and stop caring about what others think about you

Step 2: buy The Game and read it

Step 3: you go to Penn for heavens sake.. wait until finals come around and you have your pick of the litter.. finals week is the easiest week to get laid as all the women are stressed out and need a way to release it..

good luck and you're not the only one in the same boat remember:)

so true, god bless exams

I went through some rough times myself right before I started into this stuff and also at the beginning. It made me really realize that I wanted to improve myself more as a person than just to be a chick magnet. So I made a list of things that I wanted to change about myself, many of which are small aspects of being a PUA but also just help you in life in general, came up with ways to improve those aspects and I just do that stuff everyday and its pretty amazing how good you will feel about yourself. Plus it will put you in the right state of mind to get the girl you want anyway

You need to have complete confidence in yourself, or else the women who interact with you will view you as a loser, fearfull, and self conscous. Be happy to be alive bro! It's never too late to start believing in yourself.

Rynothebull

he's right at best you'll get pity but we all know thats a one way street to ljbf

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You know what your problem is?You're putting the pussy on a pedistal.