Hey guys ( I hope this is the right place to post this)

I would be grateful for any help/advice.

I will try to keep it as brief as possible.

Me: Never really had a problem with picking up girls…until now.

Her: French/Columbian here doing an internship at my place of work, she is in the country for another 2 and half months.

The situation:

She asked me to help her with her English grammar, we went for coffee yesturday: her idea.

I think I may be looking too hard for ioi. She did take my phone and key in her number. While having coffee, her knee touched mine at least three times. We spent about 15 minutes on English, then an hour and 45 minutes talking about other stuff. She fidgeted a lot, touched her hair a lot etc.

After coffee she asked if I would like to visit her and her host family and she would cook for me and she asked if I could take a day trip with her.

At work we don’t usually bump into each other, but today, she definitely lingered around me.

Problem 1:

She said that where she comes from its normal to socialise with guys and ask them out as friends: we were discussing two other guys at work who were teasing us for going for coffee. Also, she asked me for my full name so that she could add me on fb. She hasn’t, and she said she is online all the time….????

Problem 2:

I read somewhere in a PUA article that if you think she is not interested then she probably is not interested. I don’t think she is interested. I think she is looking for a friend to hang out with while she is here and to improve her English.

Any input would be appreciated. If I do pursue her do I text her or wait until our next “English lesson” next Monday? Work will be very busy this week and I will not have time to speak to her.


Thanks for any replies, this forum rocks!!!!

My gut tells me she's interested in you, inviting you over to her place for a meal that she's going to prepare is a nice gesture on her part, she obviously enjoys your company.

I think she's feeling out if you are able to be discrete about what she's looking for (which likely isn't anything long term, if she's leaving in a few months). Women experience different social consequences for romantic actions, especially with your co-workers teasing you about spending time together, I would attempt to communicate my interest while simultaneously establishing that you're trustworthy and won't bag her and then brag to everyone in the office.

You already have an excuse to get together (practicing her English) and she's tried to transition from your first hang out to a second one, at a more intimate location. If you're interested in her, I say don't dither too much and make a move the next time you're out together and have some privacy. If she rejects you and is truly looking for friendship, then you can evaluate if that interests you at that point without being confused as to what she really wants.

Good luck

Thanks Wagon!

True, don't take the FB thing to heart. From what you're telling us, it sounds like she's interested. I would just keep moving at your pace and make a move like the other guy said.