Howdy.

The short story is that I am a biology major and met this really awesome girl in my chem class. It was not merely her looks which attracted me, but also that she is intelligent enough for something beyond. I was initially quite bold and got her number and established contact on the first day of class. "Let's do lunch ... give me a call." I called her, and she returned the call. We talked and texted for a while. However, it was difficult trying to get her to go somewhere with me because of our differing schedules. It took a while for me to get her to hang out with me, but we did and she did not have a problem with me touching her. Now she gets very defensive with me, yet also apologetic. She told me that she has been seeing someone for a few months and had that tone of conflict in her voice: I'm so sorry I did not tell you. And she was stammering and stuttering when I confronted her. When she comes into the classroom she pauses when she sees me. If I make eye contact, she usually sits next to me.

I believe she is playing games, but I never learned as I had to struggle through a lot of things in the past which prevented me from learning "game" when most people learn it. Perhaps I am being a little too forward. Perhaps she feels like I rejected her because I do not chase.

Well the good news is that she clearly views you as a potential suitor. If she didn't, you would be a friend, and she would be talking to you about this new guy. The bad news is that you were beaten to the punch. However, the game is not over. You may need to act indifferent for a while. This will be better if she can see you being indifferent, so you may want to make an effort to hang out in the same social circles, and then act like she isn't there. This will hopefully make her feel like has lost your affection, and that she wants it back. You should also make it obvious that you have other options for sex. Maybe put some pictures on facebook of you with hot girls. This will demonstrate that you're the prize, not her. If you play your cards right, she will see that you are the one she should be with, not that other douche.

That is something to work on, yes. At the moment I am socially isolated, but have some people who I am befriending.