After a little over of a 2 week relationship with an HB9, we've broken up. I was an idiot and got PUA mixed with relationship material. I kept being C&F, and some other things, when I should've dropped that stuff. (Or at least kept in moderation) So yeah, I can tell she still somewhat interested, cause she texted me. However, she's an HB9, so I told her bye/didn't txt back. You cannot chase this type of girl. I'm wondering how long I should wait before contacting her again. And how I should I contact her?

Anyone? :/

a month

This is a difficult one. You deff dont wanna come in too hot. I had something similar. The best advice id say is ditch the texting too start with. Call her, let her know you got your own thing going on but that you'd still like to chill with her. Be cool no matter what the outcome.

A month, damn we didn't even go out that long lol. My friend was telling me that if I wait to long, she will lose interest. He said to contact her within the next few days. (But he's not a PUA, he knows some material tho) You say month, he says a few days... I'll wait for a few more posts before I decide. (I'm thinking 2 weeks now)

And as far as texting... I think I will first txt her, after some time has past, we'll exchange a few convos... then I'll mention something unique that I miss about her, and tell her how cute it was. (She does this thing sometimes when she talks) Then right after that's done, I'll end the convo and say we should meet up on so and so.

First of all, don't wait a month if you want her, that's ridiculous. Her being a HB9, who will obviously get a lot of attraction will 90% have moved on then.

Call her tomorrow, keep conversation basic and generalise it. Let her know you may be around in the week, if she fancies a coffee for a catch up, say you'll be in touch when you can.

That way, your saying let's go out, then your going to call her and arrange for when you can, then because you have said this, she;ll be waiting for your call.

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Ahh I feel good when I read that, I'ma go with it. Thanks bro.

Even if you should have dropped the C&F, I doubt you would know what you would have to do instead. It's not about becoming nicer, it's about becoming "normal" once you get into a relationship. Gaming is for building attraction, not love or that sentimental bond. So of course continuing to be C&F won't have anything sentimental to it. You were just supposed to do romantic acts for her, things like that. The game never stops, it just fades out.

If you want to get her back, don't use gaming or any PUA techniques. Give her a taste of just plain out being a normal human being that loves her and pull off a romantic move. You still have chances man, you just haven't showed that girl the real side of you. You still have her interest, so prove yourself to her.

The secret to all of this is not taking another step until she does. So as your first step, let's say you leave her a note with a poem or just something romantic. After that, you sit back and wait. Don't chase her, just recapture her interest.

Cool. I can be normal. With my other g/f, things are going great. I noticed I did some PUA stuff in the beginning, and then I just became the "loving" type once it was official. However, with this girl I'm tryna get back, I just think I got way too comfy with her. I'd say whatever I want without actually caring about what she'd think. W/e came to my mind, I'd literally say it lol. I'll def use the PUA tactics in moderation after the relationship is set. Ofcourse, things like teasing, push n pull, those things still work in relationships. I'll take your advice about recapturing, appreciate it.

Well as of now, I just built up the tension. We were just txting, and I was this close to telling her that I missed her, and all that good stuff, but I said that I'll tell her in person. She claiming that she doesn't have time to meet up, so she wants me to tell now... but I'm pretty sure that's a shit test. I said she'll make time for me, and we'll meet up. We'll see how it goes...

It s a shit test, and well played. I would have been cocky and a bit negative " see as you don't have time, we'll catch up soon " That will spark a reaction.

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Now her friends telling me how she likes another dude. I took it as a shit test, and replied in a cocky way... I'm not going to type exactly what I said because this is the internet, but to sum it up, the msg in a nutshell: I have no competition.

I would have said " oh yeah, good luck with that" Like I'm not even bothered, it annoys them when your not bothered, they want to make ou bothered.

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Dammit, very true. Maybe if she tells me in person, not her friend, that she has another friend she likes, I'll make it so I'm not bothered. Worst case scenario, we hang out and she doesn't want me back. If I ever catch her and her girlies, definitely game everyone but her correct? Until she starts IOI'ing me, or something... (Not sure when to stop)

Don't go gaming everyone in sight of her, it'll look so obvious your trying to prove a point. You'll look stupid.

Game some hot women, not every women, select a few, that look fun, friendly, even groups with guys if possible, it can be easier to get in. Girls get jealous when they see people like you and they're not in on the action, natural instinct. Just how a lot of AFC's feel sad when the girl they want is being chat up by some next man.

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