This is the reason why I started looking into PUAing. I either need to get this girl back (oneitis) or get over her. I need help with either of them.

I (22) dated this girl (20) for about 6 months we broke up b/c i went to college. We still both liked each other but felt we needed to experience different things. I had multiple opportunities over my 4 years of college to get her back, but there was always something in the way. Everytime we see each other we are always flirting with one another.

Last summer I heard she had a new b/f and the next time I saw her it seemed like she was testing me. To see if I still liked her. I did, but was very gaurded and didnt let her see it. I think after that she gave up on me and has now, a year later, has become very serious with this guy. I saw her Sat night said "Hi" and avoided her the rest of the night (on purpose). She got pretty mad at me b/c I avoided her the whole night and when I went to say bye to her she actually 'negged" me. I was to slow with my response and just left.

I know I will see her again, probably t-giving, and need some tips on how to let her know I am interested w/o looking like an AFC.

It sounds like you need to go out and get a sarge in. it would seem that she is not that into you if she has been dating some other guy for a year now. I would say get over it, i know its easier said than done though bro. If i was you i would go out and get some sarging in. And before you know it you will be having such a good time with some new girls you will be over the old chick.


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One-itis it is.

I used to suffer from one-itis back in the day.

When I started chilling with other women,I forgot my one-itis COMPLETELY.

Take a cue.

I know its oneitis, but its also been 4 years and I cant get her out of my head. I have dated other girls and slept with other girls. I didnt even sleep with this girl. We were in HS and she wasnt ready.

BigB why do you think she isnt into me anymore? On saturday she was obv. annoyed that I was talking to/hitting on her friends and not her.

I guess im just gonna have to try out some sarging techniques and when I see her neg her and try and make her jelous by hitting on other girls.

In my opinion giving up on a girl is very similar to deciding to kiss her or not the first time. If you get the voice in your head asking you whether you should kiss her, phase shift and kiss her using one of your routines, or just through proper body language execution. If you start thinking to yourself, "Should I give up on this girl?" Yes, its over its done you lost, move the fuck on.

Well I think she no longer likes you just off what you were saying, (she is in some serious relationship now) If she was that into you she would not be "serious" whith some other dude.

As for her being annoyed when you hit on her friends, she is only 20, and girls are like that, attention whores. I have learned frist had that girls that are 20 are not the most mature,

Look at it this way, I am not you of course, and everyone is different. You are 22, this is the time of your life, you are in college, or working and having a good time being young. Even if you could be with her do you want to be with just one girl when your 22. Explore whats out there and see what you are into. That is just how i see things, if your not like this, thats fine just think about it.

Like i said get out there and find some new chicks, hit on her friends, have fun with new girls, just have a good time being Omega. I wouldn't get all stressed over some girl that from what you are saying does not seem that into you.

Let me know how it goes


B

One-itis is usually a bad thing, and it is never good unless you are in back to the future where you or your father desperitally need to get that girl or your going to die. lol, but ya, just try to forget about her.

Guys like to say that being single's cool..its not cool. sex that doesnt mean anything is boring, sure its great if ur a loser and could never get it before.

but shallow sex leaves you feeling empty. i never close a girl i couldnt see myself dating. im not in this pua thing to 'sarge'(which is probably the gayest word ever, its right up there with splendid) im doing this to accel at it so that when i meet the one girl i want i dont get one-itis, because ill be in control.

if this girls been on ur mind for this long then fuckin do something about it. just dont pussy out like most guys do with oneitis. stay in control and close just like she were any other chick.if u cant then move on to the next girl.and the whole boyfriend thing..everyone is looking for the best deal for themselves and people,especially women, will drop u in a second if they see something better come thier way. be the better deal.

if ur like me ur never gonna be happy or complete until you take control of this shit and do it. u click with this girl right?that doesnt happen often, but keep in mind it does happen more than once in a life time. maybe this girl is one of a kind, but there are all different kinds. work on ur game and seal it.oneitis isnt a disease, its a state of mind, just dont psyche urself out. you will survive without this girl.

if u think u can do it(and from what i read i see no reason u cant) then do it, but if u cant be around her without becoming an emotional wreck then bail and move on. just dont get too caught up in her, try to treat her exactly like a girl u wouldnt meet in a bar, dont treat her special, dont buy her anything ever.ever!

ive had one-itis and i had it bad. i mean baad.i treated this girl like gold and she treated me like shit. i told the girl to fuck off one day cuz i was feed up with her shit. and refused to talk to her for over a year. and this girl that was always too good for me realized she blew somethin good.startd trying to talk to me again, i blew her off over and over again just like she always did to me. we ended up hangin out and the moment she startd to pull the same shit i put her i her place. ive conquered it. it can be done.

you just need to be collected and relaxed, dont fail the shit tests and dont put up with bullshit.above all dont put up with her shit! the moment she fucks up. shes beat. no second chances. u demand respect and if she wont give it to u then she cant have u. if she tries to give u the runaround then walk away.good luck bro, and best wishes

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Omega,

None of us here could honestly tell you if the girl likes you based on what you told us, cause we simply don't know enough about you and the girl.

Many of the people here saying she's not into you and stuff are just guessing, and since a lot of them are against one-itis, they'll tend to tell you to explore other options.

The best advice I could give you is to trust your instincts because you know your situation better than anybody else here. If you GENUINELY believe that she's still into you, I would say don't give up on her just yet, cause you might regret it later.

My suggestion is to use to push-pull method. Show her just enough interest to let her not give up on you, but don't over do it and keep her guessing. You see how she came back to you when you said hi (showing potential interest: PULL) then pushed her away by ignoring her the rest of the night?

If I were you I'd give it a shot, but don't let her realize that she has control of the situation btwn the two of you. Good luck bro!

Thanks for all the replies. I agree with a little bit of what everyone is saying, if not all.

I know i will not see this girl until the end of November, so I figure I should go out and meet other girls in the mean time and practice my skills. That way when I do so her I'll be ready and you never know I might meet the girl that will get me past my oneitis.

GOOD enought. Take my advice now FUCK HER or just let it go. We all know that you cant, but you got to tell YOURSELF i got to let this BITCH GO haha I DIDNT EVEN FUCK HER YET. why the hell am im in LOVE? honestly YOUR A LOSER FOR THINKING shes the shit, and she got a Man for over a year. SHE KNOW THAT SHE WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOU TO FALL BACK TO. Dont let her have the power im telling you. MOVE THE FUCK ON everyone is telling you this its just that you dont want to. LJBF zone deal with it.

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