Breifly met this girl at a party, but didn't make much of it because I knew she had a boyfriend. Anyways I guess they have broken up recently. Facebook makes stalking way too easy with that feed thing lol. Anyways, what would be the best way to approach this and how long should I wait?

Nothing? I guess I'll just go at it the old fashioned way then, which usually doesn't work out for this AFC.

why would you want a girl on the rebound thats a No No. Ive been with a girl that was on a rebound its not a pleasant situation, she'll suck you into her world.

Give her at LEAST 2 weeks to see if she'll get back with her man. If she doesn't get back with him, then approach her and do your stuff.

atleast 2 weeks like silver said. If you go in to early she will pull you into all her drama and possibly fuck you over at the same time, but if all you are looking for out of her is a one nighter, then get them early in the rebound, and that way they are more suseptable to your advances and you seem like a sympathetic ear to listen to her blah blah blah.. Although if you are going for a one nighter with someone like that im guessing your not planning on being a PUA but more of the PLAYA.

2 weeks it is. i dont really think i'd be getting into her shit...not really into that.
any other advice?

Ignore the fact that she had a boyfriend recently, it's just something she will say to AFCs who try to hit on her. I'm not sure whether or not she even said this, or whether you just know that she had a boyfriend recently, but let's assume you were talking to her and she said it to you.

This is a shit test. She is giving you this information to see how you're going to react. The chump thing to do is to back off immediately, so don't do that.

Here is the attitude you should have:
Nobody really needs time to get over a relationship, they just need the right person to come along and make them forget all about their last boyfriend/girlfriend.

Just imagine if brad pitt came up to this girl and started hitting on her. She would allow it to happen, would she not? So, there's certainly SOME threshold where she'll overlook the "I'm getting over my last relationship" thing. In reality it would take far less than a brad pitt to get the same reaction -- be that guy.

Some specifics:
* Talk to her SOON. Girls get in a mode when they break up with someone where they go out with friends looking for guys. You want to be in her mind by this point.
* If she brings up the fact that she had a relationship, plow right through the statement. Don't react to it, don't discuss why the break up happened or anything like that. Your interaction is about you and her.
* DON'T get caught consoling her if she's upset about the break-up. That's what her girlfriends are for, and if you allow yourself to be used in that capacity, you risk becoming an orbiter (search the forums for this term if you don't know what this means).
*Keep her busy and excited! Failure to do this will allow her to dwell on emotions related to her recently ended relationship. You need to be so much fun that she doesn't even think about all that negative stuff. This is not always easy to do, but one strategy is to make your interactions with her somewhat brief (a really great 30 minute conversation is better than a somewhat awkward 2 hour dinner date). Have stories ready to tell her, make her smile!


This is a very standard situation, I've been there several times (even once this summer).

GOOD LUCK!!!

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cool, thanks a bunch. waiting to see her around campus...which will happen eventually just who knows when...small school.