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PostPosted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 11:18 pm 
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I was in the ER getting stitches. I was simply chatting with the PA who was doing the stiches (she was a 5).

I was engaging in small talk to keep my mind occupied. I asked her how long she worked there...yada, yada, yada.
She said something like "It has it's ups and downs; most of the time I enjoy it. MY HUSBAND likes me working here too"

I thought this was very weird; her tonality. The way she stressed the words my husband into the sentence. Hell it disrupted the flow; WTF does her husband have to do with anything? I wasn't hitting on her. Hell, I wouldn't have even given her a mercy fuck.

What would a good response be? Would you call her on it?


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PostPosted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 11:32 pm 
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She was testing you to see if you were hitting on her. You probably had a look of surprise on your face, and the fact that it disrupted the flow let her know that you were. Even if you weren't. Yeah, bitches' tests are extremely flawed, and they're extremely judgemental. If you decided to keep her around as a friend, she'd always be condescending to you in her mind, and sometimes outside of her thoughts too, in her actions. Just because of that one small thing. Yeah, bitches are fucked up.

(to answer your question, there's nothing you can really do)

You can be an asshole to her and get all offended, starting an ego trip. Up to you, man. But regardless you could never have a good friendship or relationship with her. You could've been like "yeah, i saw the ring", i was just trying to make smalltalk, jeez. Depending on her reply to that, you can go farther into full blown asshole mode.


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PostPosted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 11:48 pm 
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I think I said something like...
So does your husband work here too?
I should probably come up with a canned response for these statements.


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 2:57 am 
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Firstly, why do you even care what an HB5 thinks? Especially if you're not gaming her. If you wanted to make friends, then thats another thing. If you wanted to just practice game, thats also another thing. Here's the deal. She perceived you as hitting on her and she instantly threw up her "I have a husband" shield. If you wanted to continue gaming her for fun or just wanted to keep chatting her up with random small talk, then keep talking. Don't make any notice of her comment and don't mention her husband at all. If she were better looking I would use a standard neg like "You don't get out much do you?" But it's often futile to neg an HB5 because her value should already be equal if not less then yours. Her actions show otherwise though. Which leads me back to, why do you care what she thinks says or does?

If I was in that situation and had no intention of gaming/befriending the person I'd come up with a seriously smart ass remark like, "Oh, I'm sorry I think you confused me for someone who would care about what you say," or "You mean so much in my life that by the time I reach the parking lot, I'll not only have forgotten this conversation but I'll have forgotten you completely."


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 3:19 am 
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Firstly, why do you even care what an HB5 thinks? Especially if you're not gaming her. If you wanted to make friends, then thats another thing. If you wanted to just practice game, thats also another thing. Here's the deal. She perceived you as hitting on her and she instantly threw up her "I have a husband" shield. If you wanted to continue gaming her for fun or just wanted to keep chatting her up with random small talk, then keep talking. Don't make any notice of her comment and don't mention her husband at all. If she were better looking I would use a standard neg like "You don't get out much do you?" But it's often futile to neg an HB5 because her value should already be equal if not less then yours. Her actions show otherwise though. Which leads me back to, why do you care what she thinks says or does?

If I was in that situation and had no intention of gaming/befriending the person I'd come up with a seriously smart ass remark like, "Oh, I'm sorry I think you confused me for someone who would care about what you say," or "You mean so much in my life that by the time I reach the parking lot, I'll not only have forgotten this conversation but I'll have forgotten you completely."
I don't care what the HB5 thinks...
Her comment didn't throw me off and I definately wasn't trying to game or befriend her. I later thought about it; and it was weird that she threw that shield up. For learning purposes though; I'd like to know ways to disarm a passive aggresive boyfriend /husband shield for dateable chicks. UPDATE: a simple "Are you ok?" is simple and effective.


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 4:52 am 
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...is there such a thing as an HB5?

Didnt know 5s were HBs.


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I too have had the "boyfriend" dropped into a convo - usually well into it -once she decides to see how I will deal. I simply ignore it. This particular woman is a cool chick and I dropped off a magazine for her at the job with a note.

I know I will hear something about it but I plan to blast that with "If I wanted to pick you up - it would be done by now" line... this particular woman is cool and the magazine was simply a spare I had I knew she would enjoy - no working going on.

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