Hi Guys,

To be honest, I have read lot of books on Game. So I know a few routines. I want to know, where I fucked up. So here it goes -
Everyday I had to take bus to the train station. I met a girl on the bus. At first, I started talking casually. She was friendly too. I did not use any routine on her. But opened with a situational opener. I thought I did well. Then next time, I sat beside her, she immediately started talking on the phone with someone as if trying to avoid talking with me. So, I tried to ignore her. Even in the train station, I have seen that girl but I saw that she never looked at me. I think I made her uncomfortable.

One day, I again got chance to sit beside her on the bus. She always listen to her ipod but that day I notice that she took her headphones off, the minute, I sat. So, I figured out, she wanted to talk . I used the Cube on her. Also, I did tell her birthday and some BS. She was quite impressed. I think I DHVed a lot.

Another day, I think, she missed her bus and could not reach the station on time. I was waiting for my train. Somehow, she managed to reach station, she sat beside me. I wished her bday which was two days ago. She said that she is flattered that I remembered. She told me what she did. We again talked some BS. I also shared some stories like Gambler tells us to do, though one of the story was a bit DLV. I told her that, I will take the train, which she takes instead of my usual one. I thought, I would get more chance of DHVing. But, that was a mistake I guess. When she was about to get down, I started telling her if she knows anything about body language. She said no. Train just stopped when I was telling her few things. It was kind of awkward.

Now, she even stopped coming to the station for the past 3 days. I think, I made her uncomfortable. May be she is taking leave, which I doubt. I am doing this just to become socially active not to get laid or something. So, I try to talk with everyone. Old, young, whoever I get chance. I think, I have improved a lot. At first, I was painfully shy, but I think, now I am quite capable of having a convo with a perfect stranger. Though, I fail sometimes, but thats part of the game. Right?

My question: What could have I done better? Should I have taken my train instead? I think, I gave her too much importance. Feed back please.

Thanks.

This is the root of your dilemma. You're not PROGRESSING the interaction. You're keeping it in the A1 phase instead of progresing to A2, A3, C1, etc. And as a result, you've weirded this girl out tremendously, who at some point showed you an IOI but then quickly regretted it.

The purpose of DHVing is to build attraction which is to be used to lead the interaction into a comfort and seduction stage. They expect this from you as a man. Instead, what you're doing is building attraction and building attraction and builing attraction and nothing else.

I mean what's the point in trying to make the girl attracted to you if you want nothing else? It's like a girl in a really short tight dress staring at you while sucking seductively on a lollipop but being unresponsive to you when you talk to her. That would weird you out, wouldn't it? It would beg the question "what's the point?"

Well it's the same thing with you. You're DHV'ing this girl, but you're never asking her out, or giving her any opportunity to know you and experience you OFF OF THE BUS. She's asking herself "what is the point!?"

Keep in mind that women are 10 times more socially savvy than men. They are much more keen and adept to certain patterns of social dynamics. Basically, she perceived you as a social neanderthal who hasn't yet evolved to be worthy of her time.

Hi nofear,

Thanks for your reply. I actually fear rejection even after getting IOIs. So what do you suggest? Should I ask girls out for coffee or something, after I get IOIs? But, I am sure this girl will say no if I meet her again and ask her out, right?

I will take your advice. Moment, I get IOIs from a girl, I would ask her out. If I get rejected, so be it. As you said, no point in building attraction, if I don't want to escalate.