Im wondering whats the best first message to send a hot chick on myspace that will make me not look like another suck up wuss bag? should i neg? and how should i neg? How hard?

Girls hate guys trying to pick them up on myspace/facebook. If you don't have any personal connection to her at all then don't bother. If you do, find a reason to message her rather than some stupid pickup. For example, I was interested in a girl who I knew and wanted to get together with.. I knew she was interested in interior design so I asked her to help me with a new apartment I was getting. Asked if we could get together for coffee and discuss her ideas for colors/decorating/etc.

If you want to make a connection online, it'd better be a non-sexual interest thing at first then amp it up after meeting face to face.

Yes man , I know that , But im saying what to say when approaching online , Is a neg in order, Anyone with some expeirience please.

I just told you. And that is from experience.

You want to neg a girl online? She can't hear your tone of voice or anything, she's just going to get pissed. You need to somehow get face to face with her and I gave an example of how to do that. Find a reason and run with it, or at least a reason to say something meaningful rather than.. a neg. Look at her profile and find something in common; music, shows, movies.. etc. Don't compliment, don't show interest, don't insult her, just make contact.

Understood and agreed , Thanks brother

Exactly, it's FALSE DISQUALIFICATION, which is the whole point of negs. Seriously, the quicker you understand this, the better. Otherwhise you'll see negs explode spectacularly in your face.

False disqualification? Meaning using negs at the wrong time? i need to get this.

False disqualification:making a girl think you're not interested so she'll lower the bitch shield/come out of lockup/whatever. Basically you make it look like you're not interested. Negs accomplish this because they break the ass-kissing pattern most guys follow. This is what girls are used to guys saying when they hit on them so it doesn't help. Therefore the neg doesn't have to be very insulting as long as it shows disinterest.
This explains the use of the line "If I wasn't gay you'd be SO mine." It's falsely disqualifying yourself by saying you're gay, so she won't realise you're interested and will lower her shields.
Hope this helps.

Yes it does help , Big time . thanks man. So now i know a neg doesnt have to be very aggressive, as long as it shows didintereset then its enouth. and ive been really abbusing chicks on myspace man lol

False disqualification IS the use of NEGS. You are trying to make her NOT judge you like she is judging everyone else.


Okay, you look at a woman and by her looks and body language you think she is a HB8 who is a good girl and knows how to walk like she can f!ck.

This is you instantly judging her as a possible mate. Everyone does it. But if she see's you and snears you immediately go "F!ck that!" and you don't consider her as a mate anymore.

Now, what you want is a woman to stop that Initial judging long enough for you to show her all these great things about yourself. But You can't just call her a whore. You have to be sublte. Do/say something that will be just enough to make her think that you can't be interested in her.

Then the hard part comes in. Now you have to tell her all these great things about who you are But if you just came out and told her then she would think "Wow, this guy is bragging so he obviously wants me" and you would ruin all of that False Disqualification you already did. So, what you do is DHV or (Demonstrate HIgher Value). This is where you tell stories that happen to show how great of a guy you were without actually SAYING that you are a great guy.

Like so:

"That reminds me of a time recently, I recieved a call from a female friend of mine that lives out in Decatur. She called me because she was having the hardest time figuring out what to do with her, now very, pregnant cat. So I told her she needs to go and get a cardboard box and clean out all those naughty things in her closet and make a nice cozy spot for the soon to be mama. Then make sure to line the bed with something soft, warm, and disposable. I then told my friend that if she needed anymore help, all she has to do is call. A week later I get another call, this time she is franticly squeeling happily because her cat was giving birth but she was worried about the mama and if I could come down there and make sure everything was okay. I drove the hour to go out there and when I arrived I knocked on the door. She answers it and is completely covered in nastiness. I mean it was terrible but it happends. So I told my friend that I had it from here and to go get cleaned up. By the time she was out of the shower, the mama cat was done delivering her kittens and I had them mostly cleaned up. And my friend and I just relaxed the rest of the night watching those 5 cuties roll around mewing."

I am not bragging with this story. But women will notice TONS of things in it showing that I am a good guy at heart. Not just the obvious ones like "I drove the hour to get out there" or "If she needed more help all she had to do was call"... I am talking about the sneaky ones like... that I am good in a pinch and that I have been intimate with this girl in decatur and she still trusts me in her house while she showers!

These things demostrate a higher value to the target. That is what you do while you are "Under the radar" of judgement. And before she knows it.. you have shown her your awesomeness and she is attracted to you!

Then it is time for the next step!

Hope this helps!
EvoJ

Dam man , You guys really know your shit , Ive got a long long way to go.By demonstrating higher value i am actually impressing her saying things about myself without her thinking im doing it..

Sarcasm doesn't translate well over text.

Remember that.

So your neg might come off as just an insult. (if she's too dumb to figure it out)

lol bro , Ive learnt this the hard way, Some of them get really aggresive its amazing, I guess a neg is only good in person as the other guy said, Voice tone and facial expressions are very important when your insulting someone lol .

Glad you learned.


Good luck!

And I too am glad I could help. Just remember, I am still a rAFC. I just know I am great over the internet. (Had a few really great experiences over the net that lead to RL stuff.)


EvoJ