First off this girl is religious ( I have my doubts though) She got into a strict religion through her last BF and hasn't gone back since I met her. I dont think this is cause of me, I think she just does not want to go back. However, she constantly talks about the religion and tells me all the time we can not have sex. Now she is saying we can't sleep in the same bed- even though we have done it every weekend for the last three weeks.

Ok- So i met this girl in a bar through a friend. We hooked up a couple of times (only ever made out, did some inappropriate dancing and some intense dry humping. Pretty pg13.) She wanted me so I didn't have to run much game. Just some Kino- went to the dancefloor- started making out by the second song.

Now were on the dating stage. (I SUCK AT DATING). we have gone to the movies, rented a movie, and gone to dinner.

Half the time shes in a good mood- half the time shes distant. She always calls me babe- told me she wants to date exclusively, but not be serious if that makes sense. Also, I just recently met her parents very briefly.

She is always telling me stories about how she talks to her friends/family / co workers about me.

Its only been 3 weeks and seems like shes withdrawing.
She has alot of guys going after her and she lets me know at least once when ever we go out. She gets jealous if i mention my ex is trying to talk to me.

We text all the time- She calls me from work. ect.

On paper it sounds like shes really into me. But i know she is not as into me as shes leading on.

Ive been paying for everything when we go out. Picking her up for work the odd time ect. She says Im too good to her and Im starting to agree.

This girl is about an 8 id say. Shes young 21. Im 25.

I want to maximize this relationship. (therefore not looking for advice about oneitus right now).

Thanks in advance.

well this sounds like a complicated situation you're in bro.

If you're in a 'relationship' then you have to be honest to eachother about a lot of things. You should put your foot down and next time she expects you to pay, tell her you paid for the last few dates and that you should either split or get her to pay for it. Only if she is a real golddigger she will think that is weird or that you're a bum, normal girls dont expect you to pay for everything. Stop picking her up all the time as well, tell her you're busy. You only reward her with such things when she deserves it, and she clearly doesnt.

Her telling you about the other guys could be little shit tests too.

You could freeze her out, not text her that much or not at all, make it seem like you're busy with your own life. It will let you know how she feels about you.

If you dont want to do this, then I suggest you kino like mad the next time you two are together, take her home and get her horny (i assume you know how to do it). If you finger her or eat her out it could escalate further. She SAYS she doesnt want to have sex but that could be anti-slut defense. If you eat her out or finger her a couple of times, she might get comfortable with the idea of you two being sexual and that will improve your chances.

Good luck dude

Chillburg.

It's really important to frame the relationship the right way from the start. Otherwise you risk backsliding towards the kind of AFC patterns you've described - doing her favours all the time, paying for everything, etc.

Easy things to do that won't get you into these problems:

1. For every 2-3 texts she sends, send 1. Always wait at least 10 minutes before replying (unless it's like "HELP THER IS RAPIST KTHX xxx")

2. As a follow on from that, don't be too available. You have a life of your own, so you can't always pick her up, come over when she wants you to, reschedule your plans to suit hers, etc. Obviously try and compromise, and don't go 2 weeks without seeing her just to be difficult, but don't always be willing to fit your schedule to hers.

3. Paying for stuff is a tricky subject, because you don't want to seem like a miserly bastard. A simple way to avoid problem scenarios is to just NOT do dates which are just driving her to some nice restaurant and then home. That activates "date" pattern, and in that pattern, you are supposed to pay. Instead, you can make a date something like getting coffee, going shopping, grabbing a quick bite in/near the shops, then home. That way she could pick up the coffee, you guys can split the bill when you eat, and obviously you'd pay only for your own clothes if you buy any. Also if you get her to recommend somewhere to eat or go, then it's the generally accepted social rule that whomever is "inviting" the other person by recommending the place, picks up the bill.

Finally, I would be a bit concerned that you're saying things like she gets jealous if you mention your ex. The fact that she's confident verbalising her jealousy to you shows to me that you're not dominant enough in the relationship. It's sort of like a shit test. She wants to see if you're gonna apologise, and thus show submissiveness, which gives her licence to treat you like a doormat (and probably eventually cheat on you), or if you're gonna be a man, be unapologetic about the other women in your life (and everything else you do and say!) which makes her more attracted to you, and work hard not to lose you.