About three weeks ago, I went out to a small party with a few new friends of mine after we played an intramural sport (it was a one-time thing). At this party, I met a cool HB8. We seemed to hit it off and I was surprised how easy the conversation was (a little kino in there too). Somehow, I forgot to get her number when I had to go. Again though, I wasn't too upset. If I saw her again, I'd be able to get her number (we have a couple of mutual friends). If not, no big deal.

Although we didn't exchange numbers, I saw we were Facebook friends even though we never met before the previous night. A couple days later, I started off a couple of back-and-forth wall posts, making sure to use some C&F. The next week, basically the same thing, a few wall posts each way, always short.

Yesterday, I decided to take action (other plates were falling, I have some open spots in my schedule). Even though I had no phone number (yet), I wanted to see if I could meet up with HB8 in the near future, even if our friends weren't around to hang out with. She's not really on AIM much, so I sent a short Facebook personal message (has an inbox). I suggested we get something to eat during my class break during the week, it's worth catching up , and I ended it with, "Does (Day A) or (Day B) work better for you? ." I was able to put a little C&F into the message as well.

Later in the day, I saw she hadn't written back yet. I figured maybe she wasn't into it, but either way it's nothing to lose sleep over. Later that evening, I noticed that she was finally on AIM. Preferring AIM instead of waiting for some message, I IMed her and we talked for about 10 mins. After breaking the ice, I again suggested we meet up for something to eat on a day and time where I know I'm free for a little while (I realized she hadn't been on Facebook yet). She seemed into the idea, actually asking me if we could have lunch together, and we exchanged numbers. We talked for a couple more minutes, then I said I had to go and that was that. A little later, I saw she wrote back to my original Facebook message with, "haha sorry for not getting back to you on this (earlier), I hadn't been on in a while today. it was nice chatting with you and see you soon!"

While I am looking forward to hopefully seeing her in a few days, I have to ask you guys...How did this (possibly) work? It has been almost THREE WEEKS since I last saw her and at least a week and a half since we last wrote on Facebook. Maybe she saw me working out at the gym lol. She comes off as a very cool, down-to-earth girl who I can definitely be compatible with.

Some final quick thoughts: I would hope she doesn't flake...the last couple girls I had set up dates with (back in March?) texted out at the last possible second, including one girls standing me up. It's annoying more than anything else. Also, I haven't been on a first date in awhile...anything I should keep in mind - it'd be a quicker one and we're in the school student union? I'd like to maybe walk around at some point too if that's possible, I'm into being active.

I don't get your post...

How was it a hail mary? You met her at a party, chatted a bit on AIM and whatnot.
Why did it work? Could be anything. Is it worth analyzing at this point? Most likely not. It's been three weeks? Who cares. Maybe the contact you re-initiated brought back nice memories of you. Maybe she waited all those 3 weeks for you to make a move. Or maybe you are in her LJGF zone. Time will tell.

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Why did I call it a Hail Mary?
1.) The key to getting a date, IMO, is to strike while the iron is hot. I clearly didn't do that.
2.) My private mindset when I asked her out was, "I'll throw it out there, but because it's been awhile, I'd be pleasantly surprised if this works."
3.) It's a catchy thread title that people hopefully click on.

As for the rest of the post, yes, time will tell. I'd figure she knows this is a date lol, and perhaps it will work out.

i didn't really see anything weird in what happened at all.

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Well you're right, nothing weird happened. I guess my curiosity (only on the board) is:

-You meet a girl for the first time at a party. You two hit it off, but there's nowhere to really "isolate." Additionally, you forget to number close.
-For the next three weeks, you don't even see this girl. Sure, there are a couple of wall posts on Facebook, but that's about it.
-At this time (three weeks later), you ask this girl out via IM.

IMO, the percentage of getting a "yes" this way, compared to if I had number closed and asked her out a few days later, is certainly lower. However, I did go for it and (barring a flake), it was successful.

Obviously nothing to complain about, it's all just food for thought.