Really need help with this one guys because its starting to do my head in! I k-closed a girl and number closed her that night, We've been texting and we arranged to go for a drink and she flaked, after that we arranged to just chill at hers, dvd and takeaway and she flaked again. She texts me now and then to initiate the chat and always sounds positive and when i text her sometimes she'll reply and sometimes she wont, she always texts me when shes goin out to town at night to see if im going so i figured shes quite shy and prefers to see me in a group rather than on my own.
The way i see it is if she aint interested then why bother texting me and stuff but then if she is interested whats she got to lose by goin on a date with me?
Through her texts she seems quite a fiery character which i really like and i think if she gave me a chance we'd get on really well. So how do i get that chance and get her to go out with me?

A girl like this I'd be straight up with. "Hey, I think you're pretty cool and I've tried to hang out with you to see where things go. What's the deal?"

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it could be that she sees u as the prize trophy and wants u about when her mates r there 2 show of 2! but isnt fussed 4 watever reasons 2 c u alone although the reasons r unlikely 2 b u personally!

Are you sure she's shy?! Maybe she's attracted to you, but sees you as a threat. Its really weird when girls do that, because it puts us in a "you only want to hang out with me if your with your friends" kind of situation.

Dear god, for your sake I hope ^^^ this isn't your situation!

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Nono guys... you are all wrong..

Look. It's about the chase man. You chase her too fucking hard. She should chase YOU!

Ofc she texts you because you make her feel good about herself. You can't think in terms of logic mate, women doesn't apply to that!

You have to be a man dude, take the fucking lead. If she flakes on you, don't answer her texts.

If she doesn't answer your texts, wait a couple of hours and then text her again. It's called Push/Pull.

Man this is gettin complicated! I figured i'd text her today see whats up and then see if she wants to catch a film soon, I didnt even get a reply to the text just askin how she is. So if i leave it till she texts me and i ignore it then what? Do i call her out on the fact she aint text me back and that shes flaked, just put it dead straight to her and see whats the deal or will that totally blow it out the water by lookin uncool? I think we'd get on really well if she'd give me the chance to take her out, the more she dont reply and plays hard to get the more i just think shes not interested and im gettin close to giving up

Slap and get control over yourself man. Ok as I told you before, don't fight female emotions with logic, it's a lose situation which don't work.

Look, I have been in the same position as you. You have been too needy.. You want to see her so bad that you chose to ignore that she has flaked on you several times. You have simply killed the attraction. You are chasing her like a turkey on Thanksgiving. She doesn't like that.

If you want a slight chance to fix this, you have to play it veeeery cool. Don't answer if she texts, don't talk to her on msn... Don't fucking be there for her when she want's you to.

Step up and be a man now!

Haha thanks man, i get it that ive gotta do that but how long for? surely i dont just ignore her forever?? I guess i just play it out till shes doing the chasing and asking me out then i just play it cool with her and flip it round, thanks man it may just fall into place!