So, long story short I been hanging out with HB9. She is leaving town in a few days. My game was solid and tight up until I started liking her.

Now insecurity, self doubt, and her confidence is affecting my inner game.

I can sense that she has the upper hand and of course this means that she is losing attraction towards me. I'm not sure what mentally to do to redeem this. We have plans to hang out twice this week . 1. Amusement park (tomorrow .. she was clear that she is paying for her ticket) 2. Baseball game (next day).

I've ran most routines, told her most stories that I know. I think it's just me getting in the way.

Ideas, help...???

This is why I abandoned canned materials... Eventually you'll run out of routines and be left dry.


You are the prize man, so tease her. Be fun, energetic and a little cocky.
If she's hanging with you alone then there is a reasonable level of attraction, so don't worry. You're the prize. Run some qualification. Ask her questions and tease her answers every now and then. If she says something that you genuinely like then let her know subtly with a smile or something like that.

Remember dude, there are millions of other girls out there... So this one girl isn't really all that special.

Thanks man.

10seconds, OR anyone else that can help.

I still haven't been able to get past the kiss and cuddle.

Today we went to a baseball game. Each time she has begun the evening dates with, i have to get up early tommorrow.... tonight, was no exception. And she is not just giving me a line, she IS getting up very early. I told her we should watch a show together after the game, but she declined. She doesn't have a car so she can't pick me up. She did ask me something tonight, though, and this is important, "You don't have to work the NOC shift (11pm-7am) shift the night of my going away party? (which is friday night)... " I told her no. I'm hoping it's cause she wants to possibly stay with me that night. Your thoughts?

Here's my issues:

She is going to have several HB friends. She works for the lingerie department for Nordstorm's. They of course will have alpha male boyfriends. In addition, she may have guys she has dated.

My issues : I am never in this kind of company ... and of course, the old me would shrivel up socially. Any suggestions on how to deal? Also, I should note that this will be her last night her... If i can shine with her friends; I believe my chances to spending the night with her are very very good. Any suggestions on how to shine amongst her friends?

Since, this event is on friday, i am thinking of going out thursday night alone sarging just to increase my social muscles... and sarge several sets at multiple locations. Your thoughts?

"My game was solid and tight up until I started liking her."
I think that's your 1st mistake. you started to have feelings for HB9. Think of it this way, the person with the less feelings has the most power. I think you need to turn the table around and just ignore her. play hard to get. if she comes around, then lucky you. if not, at least u know u gave your best shot. meantime, go out with other women who are woth your time. i think you're spending too much time with HB9, so maybe distance is better...

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You have a gave a lot of information but I have a few question:
What do you mean she is leaving to fight in Iraq, a job abroad, different city, for the weekend?
Your adding too much pressure on yourself to perform, just bring your A-Game be nice and relaxed (you cannot be confident when you are worrying) and see how it plans out.

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Bunney09 -- I agree that the person that is the least emotionally vested has the power. I did something last night with my friend where I started objectively looking at her faults and that seemed to help tone down my view of her. And, yeh, I am going on other dates I have 3 dates aligned with diff. women. UNFORTUNATELY they don't compare in the looks or compatibility department with me.

Workaholic -- She is going back to college several states away. She is also a foreign student (from Germany), so, after this semester there is always the possibility she will go back there for good.

Like I have stated ensure you do not add too much pressure on yourself, it is not the end of the world if nothing happens! There are plenty of women ready to walk into your life tomorrow.

Good luck.

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