Hi i am new to this forum so sorry if this is in the wrong area of the forum.

I had been seeing a girl for about 3 months all was going well but i think i came across as being a bit too into her and scared her off.

The last time i went out with her was about 3 weeks ago during that time we have been talking and texting but not near as much as we used to.

Anyway i was out last night and hooked up with some girl. Somehow the girl i had been seeing has found out about it. She has been texting me going mad saying i am being disrespectful to her.

I am slightly confused bout the situation because she didnt want to see me but when she finds out i have been with someone else she is going mad at me..

Any advice on what to do because i would like to get thing back with the girl i had been seeing

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This is not really a problem, just tell her that she can't expect you to not going out if she doesn't come. If she doesn't accept that, then it is her that there is a problem with.

- Exerio

yeah i know what you mean. Im just confused as to why she is so bothered about it

Women tend to become rather cold, if you very into them during your relationship.
They are not afraid to lose you anymore, you are not a prize for them anymore.
However, once she realizes, that there's a threat of losing you forever to another girl, she starts behaving completely differently.
This can't be shallow two-sentence answer, it's way beyond that.

exactly, pushkidman. That is why you have to act through your own intent. And yeah, the fundamentals is a lot bigger basis, but this is a forum post, and I can't write an hour-long answer for each question:)

- Exerio

So you thinking my next step should be to just leave her to it. No calls txt etc and just see what happens...

No, what I meant was to state your intent. Leaving her without getting rejected is just silly:)

- Exerio

It's pretty simple, I'm not sure why you're confused.

Basically, you said it yourself. You supplicated too early and that threw her off.

Now you're suddenly in demand. My god, it's fucking crazy what the jealously switch can do to girls. It can turn them polar opposite. Hence what is happening here.

My advice, would be.

1) No, never just leave it to her if you think it's on. Girls are like little puppy dogs, indecisive and need leadership. Pick up that phone, and CALL her up. If she mentions that other girl, bust on her. It will drive her crazy. Then organise another meet up and continue where you left off.

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Yeh i dont want her to know i am chasing her tho. I need a subtle way to do it. I have left some of my stuff at her house so that could be a way in.

She will also be in a club where i am going at the weekend. You think buying her a drink or try and get the jealousy card going a bit more?