rite, i been gaming this chick for about a week now and this is the latest txt convo.

in advance my txt game is pretty much non existant at this point.

i seen her from some distance away as she was goin on her break and i was "working"(haha).

so i smile and give her the finger and walk off all i hear is ohh like that is it ! all jokely toned.

so i been txtin her a bit before now we went out for a drink where some kino took place that was out of sync but some chick crack seemed to work wonders. so in the morning shes been saying how she wants to go out and her friends are bailing out blah blah. much later on in the day after the finger i txt her

"forgot to ask wen i gave u the finger. u and ur m8s are all wimpin out or u still goin out, im well up for a laugh tonite"

just realised how afc that was, now slapped myself for it...

her "one big meat slap for u. and get back to work. looks like im not goin anymore one friend and the last hope has high temperature"

me"ure my new wife or summin mrs luba no m8s!? stop threatining me with physical punishments i kno u want to touch me up but enough already! im still down, we can go buddha lounge or sumin"

me"if u see m try and get her to come out! im having a hard time convicing her u will do a better job."(m=my cuzin)

her"haha u get another phone meat slap, im not goin to show u what theyr like" (this refers to a previous discussion we had about meatslaps she didint want me to show what they are) im not up for town anymore anyway... dnt kno what to wear. ha"

my last reply now that i read thru it i think it was in fact a bit too harsh

me"ohhh no im goin to cry now.. stop being such a whiny lil biach and grow a pair alrite! i will lend u some clothes i think my mom might have something that would fit given u those love handles havent got bigger"

i think that was a bit too strong i was goin on how my SPAM respod to one onother were all a bunch of cunts to one another lol.

ok now later on the way home she asked me :what was that txt for? (last one i think she was refering to)

i think she was a tad bit pissed off.

all i said was gooo oooonn????? in a aaaaaannnndddd ??? ur point is? kind of tone. had no idea how to react and this was the only thing i cud think off... lol in the car she been kind of distant and shit i guess i went too far? shud i apologise?( dont feel like i have to as i didint mean any of that to be rude just sarcastic jokin, and if she cant take it her problem rite?) but ill see her again tomoro what do i do if shes rly cold and stuff towards me have i fuked up beyond repair now or is there still a chance to fix this? i think freeze out or just pretend like it never happened... any ideas and comment sabout my very poor txt game

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yeah...i see what you were doing, but to my mind, that last line could be taken quite differently than the previous ones. one thing i've noticed is that even saucy girls don't like being called the b word, even if spelled the jokey way. i call my guy friends biatches all the time, but in my experience it is too misogynistic for most girls i've met. got in a huge fight w/my last girlfriend when i called her this one night - and that was after being together a year! second, the lovehandles comment was kind of a risk too and apparently you were miscalibrated. i like what you were doing up until that last text. i say don't apologize just yet. ask her out in the near future to offset any notions you may have put in her head that you think she's fat or whatever

ha, dude by all means joke around with her and tease, but leave 'fat' jokes out of it (rather do this with your wife! women are HYPERsensitive to this as you know. also as rizkay said, the last line could be taken either way, it seems like youre teasing her about having big love handles but also seems like you could really think shes a bit on the round side.

As you say, you could pretend it never happened and guage her mood. if she seems 'upset' about something you probably did hit a nerve and need to do some damage control. if this is the case I would at some point compliment her about her body (when the time is right!) to cover up a possible grudge she may now have with you. if done right this will actually be a great push pull and may save you with flying colours. just dont do a direct apology.

yah cheers fr the replies guys yea i went too far she hated my guts big time still does but, but ive been repairing the damage its going vry slowly pretty sure i blew it but at least i wont make that mistake ever again, might at least be friends, she does hate me lol

thx dom.

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man sounds like she took it pretty rough. dude if she 'hates your guts' then i would apologize. i had no idea it was that bad. And by apologize i dont mean 'im really sorry blah blah'...but rather something to effect of... 'hey I noticed you kinda took that msg the wrong way and just wanted to say that i was really just playing around with you. we cool right.'

thats exactly what i did. said along the lines of: im sorry i meant it as a joke, i have a very rough sense of humour with my SPAM sometimes forget msyelf sorry.

its alrite though, shes alriteish now but im not even teasing anymore as she wanted to bite my face off whenever i said something witty, so i stopped that too for a bit, we r getting on a little bit better now lol she was being a real biach i deserv it i know but i did apologise and meant it, i dont usually make apologies so it kinda pissed me off. So i decided to leave her alone for a bit a slight a freeze out few days after initial appology got me a: what ure not even talkin to me anymore

if i can recover it would be just sort of a miracle but im just trying to stay friends now, she is hot must ahve some hbs firends no ?



thx for the help guys.

dom

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First off, how old are you? If you want to game girls, it's time to graduate from elementary school yard taunts. As you found out, acting like 10 year old kid who "hates" girls won't get you anywhere.

Secondly, reality exists here and now. Forget what happened yesterday or 2 years ago. It seems you already know you F'd up. Good. . . this is very good. Recognizing your mistakes and accepting them is the mark of maturity. The next step is correcting those mistakes "here and now". You have to recognize that your "insulting ways" could be habitual. Breathe, think, and remind yourself to take a better approach every time you converse with others. Slow down your speech and slow down your responses because your immediate reactive responses could lead you to fall back to your old habitual ways.

The good news is that most people are forgiving . . . especially if you actively work to make positive changes. Next time you see her, try to be more positive. "Wow, you look great today. What did you do to your hair?" . . .

Then if by any chance her head gets too big, that's when you teasingly keep her in check with a little neg but for now, I'd suggest you stay away from that and just try to act more mature. Think of all the cool PUA's in movies. Can you imagine James Bone telling a girl that she's a biatch and then pointing out her love handles? Just doesn't work . . .

Man I'm debating wheather this was a typo or not! Either way, it's hillarious!

Name is Bone, James Bone. I like it shaken not stirred :D

It sounds like you need to work on calibration a bit. youve got too much cocky and not enough funny in my opinion (not saying you dont have the ability to be funny but try be more on the fun side than the arrogant/dick side). Get her to start biting on that and then as kasabi says slowly introduce more cocky before you start seeming too 'nice'. you just need to rework your balance. and its good she shat you out because you can now use this as feedback for future interactions. ie. i bet you wont talk about her handles again....cos its just not funny to her, at all.