I see that this post was way too long for anybody to take their ime to read,so Ive cut some of it in hope of getting som answers. still a bit long,but not so much as it was before

Ive had a couple of sort of succesful pickups,but have just managed to get a number and a 2nd/3rd date,and hope that anybody could help me analyzing what i did wrong(and hopefully,something right).

the next pickup is quite a mystery for me. it was a swedish girl(i live in norway) I approached at a club. after saying "hi" I asked her if she was swedish,had no idea that she was at the time. she said yes and asked me how i knew. told her because of her hair(long story to explain why),and I again started some standard AFC-shit. however,she found me quite funny and laughed alot.
asked for her number after a while,but she was still sceptical,and didnt want to give it to me yet,so we continued talking.
after a while again, I said I have to go soon,and asked for her number again. a male friend of her had in the meanwhile approached and talked a long while with her. I asked if he was interested in her,and if he was I didnt want to get in between them. she said she didnt know,and gave me her number.
went on a date almost a week later,but didnt go too well. didnt have the same connection I had with med med. student. much boring talk about this and that,but she still wanted to meet me again a couple of times.

the second time went quite similar,ended up at my place watching a movie. she stayed a long time after the movie was finished,took the last bus home about 3 in the morning. I did some crappy attempts to kino her,but it didnt land.
yet,she still wanted to meet me at a nightclub the next weekend..... after asking her a couple of timess if she wanted to dance and sum shit,I asked her what she wanted. she said she didnt know,and after a little while I left. got a sms from her after a couple of hours,saying that she didnt want any bf now,and in one last,desperate attempt to get in her pants ,I asked if she was interested in being FF's(which I was really after), but got a no-go...

what did i do wrong here,and did I do something right?? is it too late to try to get in the swedish girl's pants? (she was sooo hot, AND swedish!!!)