Hey guys..im recently in holydays and i long planed to go sarge and improve a lot this times. Problem is that at the hour i find myself excuses to not go out and stay home, like "it gives too much work", "im having fun at home", "i can do it tomorrow"

I know its stupid, but im having problems pass through this..

Any advice ?

Tnx

I can appreciate how you're feeling. I think we've all been there at some point in our lives in any walk of life.

The thing is that you're sitting in your comfort zone, or your comfort bubble and you're feeling pretty content there. But there's obviously a desire to want to go out and interact, meet girls, have a good time or whatever or you wouldn't have written your post.

So, my question is what is really stopping you? Is it the fear of rejection, going to a new foreign environment, the lack of confidence or competence?

There are times when a guy might decide to stay in because he hasn't got the right frame of mind, emotional state or just isn't in the talkative mood because he's under stress/pressure, ill, exhausted or whatever. These are legitimate claims, but there's a some kind of force holding you back that can only be turned off by you.

Sure, you could arrange a meeting with your friends and they might be able to motivate/persuade you to leave your home, but you could still make up an excuse at the last minute, I know some guys who do this often. It's normal.

Look at this way, are you basing your decision to go out on an outcome like if I go out I must make out with a girl, or get laid, or whatever. If so, they don't, stop that mind of thought. Just go with the flow, have a good time, be carefree. Don't attempt to predetermine things and remember go out with a good vibe.

How can you get into that positive vibe? Well get well groomed, new haircut, listen to your fav songs, buy some new aftershave/cologne. Meet up with positive people, don't go out with negative people who only talk about work, weather or dry boring stuff.

I'll leave it there for now, will be interesting to hear back from you about why you really don't want to go out.

the best thing u can do is surround yourself by proactive ppl, u can see what they are doing and things will make more sense to you.

by doing this, you will naturally be placed in many situations that are the farthest thing away from staying home.

if this isn't an option, then don't feel bad for yourself, just try to reconcile this problem and get to the point where it is.

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swag

Hey guys, tnx for your replys.

The prob were the exams.. and i used them as an excuse to not go out, but now i still end up getting an excuse to not go out (consumes too much time).

Now that u asked me, i think its because im afraid of not improving at all so its not worth the effort... of leaving my confort zone

Stop masturbating, until you get a chick who'll help you release yourself. Do it as an exercise. You'll be at the club 5 nights a week, trust me.

Now that is motivation boy!

couldnt have said it better

About to go to the gym. When I get back, going to walk along the beach for a few hours and holla at hoochies, do the same.

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