LONG POST AHEAD:

I've browsed through all the sections and wondered about where to put this (as I'm so nice) and figured this was the right place.

I mean here or off topic. Feel free to move if this is in the wrong place.

Well, first of all, I'm new here so hi everyone.

I've got a few things I'd like to discuss about:

#1: Success stories.

I've always considered that the best person to listen to about something is someone who is successful at it. No point in asking for insight to a finished alcoholic a way to stop drinking.

If someone could point me out to a success story which was really remarkable, I would appreciate it.

The thing is, I don't know about you guys, but from my experience on the internet trying to find "support" you often end up getting advice from people who are as clueless as you are, if not more so. I'm not talking about here by the way, just the general internet.

You'll get guys who have been single for centuries giving you advice about dating, out of shape guys telling you how to stay fit and so on.

I'm not looking for "small", irrelevant "successes" which really change absolutely nothing and just give us the impression that things are being different but are actually staying just the way they are.

I figured I would be honest about this. I think it's fair to say that as well.

#2
I want to change my situation drastically and will do whatever is necessary.

I'm looking for advices and will act on them. See, I'm done complaining and just thinking about things and doing nothing about them. I want think to change, things will change and I will do whatever is necessary to get the changes I want.

Give me some insight and it's doable, I'll do it.

#3
My situation:

I might be the nicest guy around these parts, and I'm not saying this to brag .

I open doors, pull chairs, volunteer, cheer people up, interest myself in other people, ask questions, give money to the poor (a little), you name it.

I'm doing all those things to feel good about myself. I think that if I keep doing the right thing, then I'll feel happy being who I am.

But, as you all know, it doesn't work.

I'm fairly handsome and in good shape. I'm funny too. I pretty skilled at some sports and art. But...

I do have some friends but none where I live right now.

I haven't had sex for 4 or 5 months and that's really starting to bother me.

The thing is, I become so nice the sexual tension just disappears.

I don't want to be nice but it happens on impulse.

The problem is that I believe in integrity and I don't want to be an asshole either.

I want to have kids and I'm nearly thirty. It's time to get this show on the road and stop beating around the bush.

I've stumbled about this site and I guess my question really is:

Are all those techniques actually involve being insidiously manipulative?

Anyways, I'll stop for now. I'll be looking forward to reading what you have to say.