I finally asked out this girl i've been hanging out with for the past 4 months and she told me that i miss interpreted our relationship. I can't believe it, i've been friend zoned. Noooooooooo

Yikes, 4 months is a long time . . .

Well . . . I hope your answer to her was, "Really? Hmm. . . OK. . . "

For the time being, just hang out with her or do what ever the hell you were doing with her like nothing ever happened. (The truth is that NOTHING happened and you want to demonstrate to her that this was NOTHING . . . )

Then . . . dude . . . this next part is tough if you haven't done it yet but you've got to amp up your game. You've got to start GAMING every girl you see. Get numbers, get dates . . . this is just statistics. You're going to get some and you're going to lose some. The better you get, the better your ratio will be.

Then one day, your original girl will be like, "So, what are you up to?"

You, "I'm having lunch with somebody. . ."

"WHO??"

"Just this girl I met. Hey, let's hang out next weekend, OK? Gotta run!" - Now hang the FUCK UP.

Now when you see your original girl, you've GOT to have an incredible time with her. Don't see for boring mundane crap. Set something up with her, show her an incredible and TOUCH her as much as possible but keep it platonic. She'll ask about your other girl(s). Do not offer any information. "Come one . . . that's private stuff. I don't kiss and tell."

You bounce back and forth like this a bit from your dates and the original girl and you probably won't even want the original girl but . . . if she still strikes your fancy, at this point, you might be able to get in her pants. There are LOTS of things to work on my friend. . . . Get going!

Join the club. You see where you went wrong though right? Hanging out 4 months without asking her out from the beginning. I fell victim to LJBF twice, so don't worry.

if (hanging out == having sex & kissing & dating & having fun) { its a bummer();}
else {it's your fault you were not attracting her;
get over it();
make it right the next time();
}

Haha thats exactly what my response was...To tell you the truth im actually kinda relieved. It's like im the underdog again. But yeah shes coming over tomorrow the game has changed and i'm excited about it.

To be your girlfriend? Or like on a date?
Bcuz if your were already hanging out then
there no difference between that and dating..

And if you asked her to be your girlfriend my
question is why? Did you join this site to be better
at PU a gf wouldnt help you with that

"I think you misinterpreted my intentions."

<3

*Geekgasm*

(You're 'it's your fault...' function was stated as a literal, FYI. I fixed it. )

haha

I told her i wanted to take her out on a real date for valentines day

So?

"You seemed lonely. I was just being friendly."

Gold!

How about moving FORWARD people?

4 months!

And I presume during these four months, you were comfort building because you thought you bide your time and it would be the best way to do it before you finally asked her out.

This is how she sees it when she's telling her girlfriends:

'Yeah arcktik is really sweet. He hangs out with and we talk about deep stuff together. I really think we're getting on, then after like four months he does something creepy and asks me out. I mean, was that all he was after these four months?'


No offence, but that is all plain wrong. You HAVE to flirt almost immediately, that way when you pop the question and ideally, if you've done it right you wouldn't need to, she'll be more likely to agree.

Basically, you take a high risk at the beginning of the relationship. If the ioi's are there then it's game on, if not then give it up. You can only work with cards you are dealt.

Take risks at the beginning otherwise you're just gonna make another friend.

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