I need help i picked up stylelife challenge and like i have no problem with limiting mind and crap i'm just shy. I need a idea for school. and i asked a girl out by teasing her with a secret that she opened in a letter after school showing my feelings for her (fyi i've known her since august) she wasn't mad she said she had never seen me as a potential boyfriend because she felt like i was a brother to her, and that we were still cool. But the thing is that i still like her and we were talking on the phone for like 20-30 minutes each day that week building to the letter. And then this week we talked litteraly for 80 minutes, i even asked her what is the longest she ever spoke to a boyfriend for and she said 20 minutes. I need to know what to do, this stuff is confusing. We are compilated

This isn't complicated really. You have what is known in the community as "one itis" which is an affection for one specific girl. This is very common around the forum, although the situations differ a bit.

You made your attempt at your "letter" to her and went for the relationship gold, but got shut down. She gave you the let's just be friends speech and I just see you as a "big brother"." She doesn't think of you in the way you think of her, I'm sorry.

During all that time speaking to her you were building comfort with her and that is a good thing. It's an excellent skill to have and it will be one that you will need later so don't forget how to do that. However, in that time we didn't build an equal amount of attraction.

Attraction + Comfort = Seduction and Relationships

When you have more comfort than attraction you end up in the friend zone like we did here.

You changing to pickup tactics wil not change this. I hate to say it buddy but it's time to find another person to be in a "relationship" with, but still be her friend.

Good Luck,

Jon

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