I'm still new to the game, and one thing I've got that I think alot of people have is approach anxiety. I can open girls if the situation is right or I got a good wing, but straight cold opens freak me out.

I'm stuck in a small town over the weekend. Saturday I'm hitting the mall and a local museum. I'm gonna cold open some girls. I'll be doing some research over the next day, but any advice would be useful.

My theory (I guess as it always should be) is I won't see these girls in the future, what do I have to lose.

Has anyone done this before, if so tell me some good stories.

Check out this article. If you think you've got "approach anxiety", it should change your life.

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I don't consider this a bump, rather I wanted to let you guys know how today went.

So as I said I'm stuck in a city for the weekend. I travel for work and instead of going home I decided to stay in Springfield, Il. Pretty lame city.

Without a doubt I failed today. I didn't approach alot of girls...alot of it had to do with alot of girls at the mall looking really young, but alot of it had to do with me not stepping it up.

I spent the afternoon getting lunch and at a museum - There were cute waitresses at the resturant, and other then small talk I didn't speak much. I spoke more with the male chef then the waitresses.

I call one of my boys from back home and I think that helped, you know putting me in the zone. I make my way to the mall and realize it's full of small town lame asses (no offense to any small town lame asses reading this). Actually, now that I'm typing this I realize another reason I was ready to go after talking to my boy...it had to do with my ex - I really need to not let her affect me anymore....when I do it kills my game, and when I don't I'm amazing....

I head to the mall and am ready to roll, i'm in my happy place. I walk around though and don't see much. I had a missed opportunity at Express - there was a hb8 that I didn't even bother opening. After that I knew I wasn't going to let the day go to waste. I needed to up my game already....

I get my haircut and am definetly vibing with the girl cutting my hair. I felt like this was more then she was just cutting my hair. I get her name and a card. I feel like if I had stuck around longer I could have # closed but that was based on analysis after the fact.

What I learned - I need to go in with conversation ideas (sometimes girls are horrible at keeping convos going) and an end game (number for day game...or a let's meet up later close).

After that I game a couple of ladies at the sushi bar (hb7.5 and an old hb6) and the starbucks lady (hb6).

The sets I opened (even though 2 of them were paid) I felt good about. Days like today remind me while I have come a long way (I know some of my friends won't even talk to strangers) I have a long way to go (properly closing and keeping convos going).