Basicly i was seeing this girl for like 2 months then we started going out about 2 weeks ago....the thing is shes a virgin! It isnt realy a big deal for me but i think tht initiating foreplay etc is going to be difficult and need some help?

Basicly im 17 ive slept with a number of people (about 7) and she nows this but i dont want her to feel pressured into doing stuff with me if she isnt comftorble.

U got any advice on how to handle a virgin? ive already started going up her top but i need a way to go down without fearing rejection.

I was thinking just go for it and see what happens but rejection would make it feel ARWARD! i was wondering is there any certain IOIS she can give wish shows she wants to escalade?

Annother thing i did with my ex when she didnt give head was play agame and if she loses she gave me head. It was a fun way of starting sexual escalation but i was with her a few months before i did that


Any advice?

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Man, If theres something I know is how to handle a virgin. My gf is a virgin and I love that. Ok so let me explain. A virgin has a way of life very different of the other girls. They think very different. They are more polite, more respectful, more inocent. So what you have to do, is show her that you respect her, and that you just dont want to FUCK her, but you want to make love to her. And to do this, you will have to ask her to be your gf. After you do that, dont play games like the one you did with the other girl. I use a different technique I came up with. And it has never failed. Man and dont worry if she rejects you the first time, probably she WILL. Virgins reject all the time, its obvious, thats why they ARE virgins. You must accept this rejection before you make your move. But this is the trick:

When you are kissing her, (I generally do it in my car) say this: Is there a STOP sign there? (ask with complete shyness). She will look out the window for a stop sign in the street. Then you say "No, not there, here" And you point her boobs/pussy. If she says yes, and she probably will, you say "Ok , and how much does the fine cost? " And you put your hand close to her boobs/pussy with a smile on your face, but never touch her. Respect her always. Virgins take respect very serious. Then RESPECT HER ANSWER, then say "I love you " and kiss her. She probably needs to love you and know that you love her too before having sex, or finger sex.

The next time you make out with her, ask her "whats up with the traffic laws? Any news? " Thats a perfect and a very indirect way (you have to be indirect, or she will feel presured) to send the message to her. Use comedy. Another example: "I read in the newspaper that they are taking out all the stop sings ".

Its very important that you do this in a very inocent and playful way, and respecting her answer always. Remember, EXPECT rejection. If you can show her you love her, you will have no problem in escalating very fast.

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Very good post by Seek..

I too have had plentiful virgins and it too came from respect.. but you can't fear rejection with them or else you will lose.

You have to make some sort of committment to date them. Make sure you are in a place where the chances of being spotted are nil. You have to appreciate that this is a very private for them. You also have to create a romantic spontaneous special reason You can create these out of nothing... like next Saturday is Pamper Lisa Night. Above all Respect them..

then I usually left the talking out of it..

I would use a Kino Escalation technique that I had called Hot N Cold.. or the Grapevine.

Basically you start on the lips kissing say this is a starting spot.. and it is safe because you have kissed before.. so we will call that Cold for now.. just consider it a safe area. I would then proceed to escalate to a new hot place then reassure them by going back to the neutral cold place.

Cold=Lips
Neck=Hot
Cold=Lips
Grab Her Shoulders=Hot
Cold=Lips
etc etc all the way up the grapevine.. take your time it is not a race.. and you are building up the fire like a volcano you want her to blow with excitement as you make your final moves.

It should be an escalation that flows smoothly check for signs of her excitement along the way..

They know it is your job to escalate.. and it is there job to stop you.. and virgins are very experienced at doing it.. so you have to be persistent but respectful.. at times you have to give her the cold shoulder.

Expect it..

Take the fear out of it for her.. but be persistent...

Hey I respect you but I want your first time to be special.. and with me.

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I am guessing she is 16 or 17.
So move gently, but firmly.

and, you should also get to the position where it is she that wants it, more than you.
Turn her on, and move slow, turn her more on, and continue to move slowly, letting her be the one who decides when to move forward.

You understand what I'm saying, yes ?

You test the water, but then move a little back, so that she realizes how much she wants it.

Like if you notice you are moving a bit fast, take it down a little, and read her non-verbal communication. If her body says Yes, and her mind is foggy and undecided because you've shown her that it is soo good... Then she will probably re-initiate the stimulation.

Tease her, and reassure her at the same time... and by reassure I don't mean you go like that dude in the movie Kids "I promise it won't hurt.. etc."
I mean you show her that you want this, but that you are comfortable with letting her decide when...

Like you move on with your fingers first, and then you look at her, just look at her reaction, and this will, usually, allow her to feel that you pay attention to what she wants... So if she seems uncomfortable, you cool it down a little...

I don't remember doing it with virgins, but this is the way it worked for me when I was 16-17 and had girls a year or two younger...

Oh, and here's a tip; the way you are is going to become the standard by which she judges all that fuck her from now on.
So, make sure it's a comfortable experience so that she doesn't get a fucked up, (haha,) impression of sex.